...the Queer female isn't dismissed by the prototypical North American Potbellied Beersucker as a "cute defective" - it's an opportunity to "correct" their deficient sexuality, and get two women at the same time.
Gay men, on the other hand, scare the living daylights out of other men, because IMO a good portion of the male species hates thinking of themselves as the object of sexual desire for other men. "They'll turn me into one of THEM if they get their way" and all that...
Yer using your brain for thinking about the dick again... ;)