Additional causes plus a small edit.

Post #135,732 by inthane-chan 1/14/04 3:56:45 PM Reply	Additional causes plus a small edit. The fact that a large percentage of the male black population is in prison contributes as well to the "single mother" problem. And gays. You're right. Female homosexuality is treated by mainstream culture mostly as a turn-on. And more than a few men definitely react to it that way. I know quite a few who do. Male homosexuality is not treated as a turn-on. It terrifies most men, and doesn't seem to interest most women. This difference is reflected in the fact that gay men are more often the targets of violence than gay men. I'm not entirely sure why the discrepancy exists, but I'll agree that it's real. I assume that the italicized phrase should read gay men are more often the targets of violence than gay women - which is most definitely true. I have a blue sign on my door. It says "If this sign is red, you're moving too fast."
Post #135,761 by Ashton 1/14/04 5:27:12 PM Reply	Puritanism is ignorant of, simultaneously opposed-to an idea that there is a spectrum of 'sexuality' - which, after all is far MORE [often!] about pleasurable connection, sensual touching, intimacy .. than about the very occasional procreation. Of Course! the male homosexual is threatening to the typ. young male - whose mindset is of the {again} fucking Digital sort: Tarzan / Jane. He has no concept of, "have you nothing in between?" Clearly, more women do have such a concept - naturally as, females generally ARE more in-touch with subtle feelings around sexuality besides: Get That Orgasm andthenthecigarette. (And tell the guys, Hey! I nailed ___ ) Nah, she ain't no slut.. less'n she does it with anyone Else cha cha cha cf. The unexamined life isn't worth living. Murica: Cathedral of the unexamined life - we're too busy shopping, or scrabbling to get the wherewithal for the Next acquisition. So we can show it. Then - off to the landfill. Damn.. now there's a 3.4 GHz. Ditch this junk! I believe this, only sl. exaggerated shtick - explains well enough. (The 'queer' female is no threat: can be dismissed by Digital-think as - a cute defective. Doesn't prompt any introspection in those scared-to-Look.. inside.) Ashton
Post #135,767 by inthane-chan 1/14/04 5:47:42 PM Reply	IMO, Ashton... ...the Queer female isn't dismissed by the prototypical North American Potbellied Beersucker as a "cute defective" - it's an opportunity to "correct" their deficient sexuality, and get two women at the same time. Gay men, on the other hand, scare the living daylights out of other men, because IMO a good portion of the male species hates thinking of themselves as the object of sexual desire for other men. "They'll turn me into one of THEM if they get their way" and all that... Yer using your brain for thinking about the dick again... ;) I have a blue sign on my door. It says "If this sign is red, you're moving too fast."
Post #135,769 by jb4 1/14/04 5:49:16 PM Reply	ICLRPD (new thread) Created as new thread #135768 titled [link\|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=135768\|ICLRPD] jb4 shrub\ufffdbish (Am., from shrub* + rubbish, after the derisive name for America's 43 president; 2003) n. 1. a form of nonsensical political doubletalk wherein the speaker attempts to defend the indefensible by lying, obfuscation, or otherwise misstating that facts; GIBBERISH. 2. any of a collection of utterances from America's putative 43rd president. cf.* BULLSHIT
Post #135,775 by deSitter 1/14/04 6:10:36 PM Reply	Re: Puritanism is ignorant of, simultaneously opposed-to an Humping has nothing to do with the kind of issue I'm trying to get at. Indeed one of the errors of feminism is the raising of humping to some kind of metaphysical principle. Marriage should not be primarily about humping, and indeed in a better society, people could allow themselves to maintain a stable family while obtaining their humpage elsewhere, should it be necessary. Marriage should be primarily about raising children with one father and one mother. -drl
Post #135,776 by Nightowl 1/14/04 6:16:57 PM Reply	Sorry, can't ignore this one. Marriage should be primarily about raising children with one father and one mother. Marriage is NOT about raising kids, that's PARENTING. Marriage is about two people who love and commit to each other, and want to spend their lives together. There is NO requirement to have children to have a marriage, and no shame in having a very happy and successful marriage without choosing to have children. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,778 by deSitter 1/14/04 6:25:12 PM Reply	Re: Sorry, can't ignore this one. Thank you for making my point, complete with the new age, feminist Pabulum word with no meaning - PARENTING. I say, bullshit. Marriage is and always was about the merging and continuity of families, which are (or should be) the stable units of society. A society is as stable or unstable as its fundamental units. The idea of what makes a family may change but not the basic idea that unstable families result in an unstable - and therefore moribund - society. -drl
Post #135,779 by Nightowl 1/14/04 6:28:23 PM Reply	Whatever You are so deluded it isn't funny. Believe whatever you want, you aren't worth it. I spoke my mind about marriage, and my opinion has not changed. And FWIW I am NOT a feminist. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,836 by deSitter 1/15/04 1:00:03 AM Reply	Fundamental Units (new thread) Created as new thread #135835 titled [link\|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=135835\|Fundamental Units] -drl
Post #135,862 by jb4 1/15/04 9:30:19 AM Reply	Ross, the Puritan........I never would have thought it! Marriage is and always was about the merging and continuity of families, which are (or should be) the stable units of society. Rex Reed couldn't have said it better himself. My question to you is: Why are you, of all people, trying to make Jerry F~~oul~~arwell's case (and badly, too!)? jb4 shrub\ufffdbish (Am., from shrub* + rubbish, after the derisive name for America's 43 president; 2003) n. 1. a form of nonsensical political doubletalk wherein the speaker attempts to defend the indefensible by lying, obfuscation, or otherwise misstating that facts; GIBBERISH. 2. any of a collection of utterances from America's putative 43rd president. cf.* BULLSHIT
Post #135,786 by a6l6e6x 1/14/04 7:57:35 PM Reply	So you are in favor of gay marriages? Marriage is about two people who love and commit to each other, and want to spend their lives together. There is NO requirement to have children to have a marriage, and no shame in having a very happy and successful marriage without choosing to have children. Alex The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled. -- Plutarch
Post #135,788 by Nightowl 1/14/04 8:06:35 PM Reply	I never said that All I said was there is more to marriage than having children, that a perfectly happy marriage can exist without any children in it, and that the sole reason for marriage is not just to have children. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,789 by ben_tilly 1/14/04 8:21:47 PM 1/14/04 8:48:56 PM Reply	You never said anything against it either The definition of marriage that you gave makes gay marriage fit perfectly. The definition of marriage that you gave also makes it OK for people over 50 to get married. I find it amusing that many people have no problem when an older couple marries, but are vehemently against gay marriages, "because marriage is about kids." Cheers, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi] Edited by ben_tilly Jan. 14, 2004, 08:48:56 PM EST Expand All History
Post #135,790 by Nightowl 1/14/04 8:28:05 PM Reply	Stop putting words in my mouth I never said I was against OR for gay marriage. I simply said that marriage did not require children. I never stated my views about gay marriage either way and I don't appreciate you deciding what I think. Besides, gay couples can also have children, just not each others. I don't think age OR sexual preference have anything to do with my original statement, that children are not necessary for a happy or successful marriage. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,795 by Another Scott 1/14/04 8:50:17 PM Reply	Hint - Nobody said you did. Alex and Ben were just pointing out logical inferences that could be made from your initial comment. They're not putting words in your mouth. You said earlier that you don't get hints. It's funny that you seem to be willing to jump to conclusions.... That's often a sing of insecurity, in my experience. On gay marriage, my feelings are that the state should be more interested in whether two adult people are living together as a family. The state should be interested in promoting families. It shouldn't matter if the people have the same or different gender. But I think the issue is bigger than that. For instance, my grandfather and his sister lived together for many years after their spouses died. IMO, they should have had all of the benefits that a married couple had as far as the state is concerned. Restricting the debate to children or sex does a disservice to committed relationships that aren't sexual and don't involve children. So for me, it boils down to commitment that two people make to each other. If you're an adult and voluntarily make a commitment to an unrelated person to form a family, then you should be able to be married. Similarly, if two related people, like my grandfather and great aunt, are living together as a family, then they should have all the rights of a man and wife (being able to file joint tax returns, having medical rights that a spouse would have, survivorship, etc., etc.). Cheers, Scott.
Post #135,798 by Nightowl 1/14/04 8:57:46 PM Reply	Re: Hint - Nobody said you did. You said earlier that you don't get hints. It's funny that you seem to be willing to jump to conclusions.... That's often a sing of insecurity, in my experience. Well, I was mostly confused. I believed Alex's statement to be saying that because I wrote what I did, I was in favor of gay marriage. I see the logical inferences, but I thought they were applying them to me. Sorry if I read it wrong. See, I should stop trying to read what people are implying, and stick with the actual words. And yes, sometimes I do jump too quickly to conclusions, however it's something I've been trying to work on changing. The biggest problem is, I read what they wrote, and then I perceive that SOMETHING in my post made them believe x y or z about me. Maybe that's not the case, but it's usually where I screw up. So I search it and look for whatever gave them that impression. I didn't give my view on homosexuality, gay marriage or otherwise, because I find that is among the issues that tend to create very gray areas in terms of my religious beliefs, so I do not have solid yes/no answers in most cases about those sorts of issues. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,797 by ben_tilly 1/14/04 8:57:04 PM Reply	But I didn't - reading comprehension time Your description: Marriage is about two people who love and commit to each other, and want to spend their lives together. Facts and timeline: That description can perfectly fit a gay marriage, even though it says nothing about gay vs heterosexual. You were asked whether you are in favour of gay marriages. (Likely because what you said - probably accidentally - matches what gay marriage advocates say.) You said that you never said that you were in favour of gay marriage. I pointed out why the question was probably asked. You correctly pointed out that you never expressed a position either way on gay marriage. I'm pointing out now what I pointed out before. The statement as you gave it could fit gay marriage. I have no reason to believe that you intended this though. Now please review the thread, keeping these facts in mind. Hopefully you will realize that nobody ever said what your opinion was. You were asked, but you haven't chosen to give it. You've apparently interpreted others as having said something what your opinion was, but that didn't actually happen. The long and short of it is that your position on marriage bears an accidental resemblance to what advocates of gay marriage say. Alex asked the obvious question. You apparently misunderstood why he asked, and the rest of the discussion cascaded from that. Hopefully it is all clear now. Regards, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi]
Post #135,799 by Nightowl 1/14/04 9:00:50 PM Reply	Re: But I didn't - reading comprehension time Now please review the thread, keeping these facts in mind. Hopefully you will realize that nobody ever said what your opinion was. You were asked, but you haven't chosen to give it. You've apparently interpreted others as having said something what your opinion was, but that didn't actually happen. The long and short of it is that your position on marriage bears an accidental resemblance to what advocates of gay marriage say. Alex asked the obvious question. You apparently misunderstood why he asked, and the rest of the discussion cascaded from that. Hopefully it is all clear now. It is, I get it now. I didn't even know that was what gay advocates say, honestly. But yes, I misunderstood, as I explained in my previous post to Scott. Sorry about overreacting, I just tend to worry that my words really DID imply what someone gleans from them. Does that make sense? Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,867 by ben_tilly 1/15/04 10:26:07 AM Reply	Yes, but.... before reacting to what you think might have been meant, make it clear that you also understand what what said. That way if your guess is wrong, you won't draw nearly the same reaction. Cheers, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi]
Post #135,803 by a6l6e6x 1/14/04 9:27:33 PM Reply	Bingo! Alex The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled. -- Plutarch
Post #135,807 by boxley 1/14/04 9:38:06 PM Reply	childless and married are we? Marriage is a religious act that depending on the religion (most REQUIRE childrun and often) any non religious state marriage is a tax convenience or a quaint desire to PRETEND to be religious and blend in. DeSit is right about marriage. thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #135,810 by Nightowl 1/14/04 9:49:16 PM Reply	You are incorrect. My religious beliefs do NOT require children to be born of a marriage, and that does not make me any less a real Christian, either. I choose to be childless, I do not deal with children. I still completely disagree with his view on marriage, sorry. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,813 by a6l6e6x 1/14/04 9:53:19 PM Reply	No need to be sorry. Your life, your choice. Alex The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled. -- Plutarch
Post #135,814 by Nightowl 1/14/04 9:56:00 PM Reply	Re: No need to be sorry. Your life, your choice. Hehehe, I wasn't saying I was sorry about my choices in life, I was saying I was sorry that I still feel Ross's description of marriage is incorrect! However, I should not be sorry about that either, it's what I believe! ;) Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,815 by boxley 1/14/04 10:00:23 PM Reply	Depending on which Christian Sect you belong to and which sect you married under that may or may not be correct. Most Christian Sects have an obligation to have children, like the Catholics for example. It is a sin for them to use any sort of birth control except the rythm method. I dont know which sect you are with so cant discuss theology on it unless you want to continue in Religion. If you are the product of a State marriage it is a tax sham nothing more. Marriage is a religious thing that the States got invovlved with over monetary disposition. Since the advent of DNA and current contract law there is no rational for the state to be in the marriage business anymore, the laws simply need to be used correctly. A general power of attourney and a good will serves most of what civil benefits marriage gets. The other items like medical equality, survivorship of social security benifits need to be changed to reflect society as it currently exists. Again I cannot debate with your theology since I dont know your affiliation and your feelings on remaining childless are your's and valid but again, marriage is a religious act (which was the object of doc's post) and Most normal religions demand children to be reproduced. More fodder for the mill so to speak. thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #135,819 by Nightowl 1/14/04 10:09:38 PM 1/14/04 10:12:21 PM Reply	Re: Depending on which Christian Sect you belong to and which sect you married under that may or may not be correct. Most Christian Sects have an obligation to have children, like the Catholics for example. It is a sin for them to use any sort of birth control except the rythm method. I dont know which sect you are with so cant discuss theology on it unless you want to continue in Religion. I know for a fact that the religion I practice does not require children, at least from the teachings of my old church, it was not ever stated as such. I'm not sure we married under any sect. I had my old preacher come up and perform the service at an entirely different church, but it was still considered a Christian marriage ceremony. So we are not the product of a State marriage. Again I cannot debate with your theology since I dont know your affiliation and your feelings on remaining childless are your's and valid but again, marriage is a religious act (which was the object of doc's post) and Most normal religions demand children to be reproduced. More fodder for the mill so to speak. The only title I know for my affiliation was Christian. I belonged to 4th Christian Church. The church I currently attend isn't my exact affiliation, it's Baptist, but I'm there for the time being. My church closed, and the current one is where I've wound up for now for a number of reasons. I don't choose to debate my theology, because I am dealing with my own issues about it still, and I don't feel that any of you would understand that. Nightowl >8# EDIT: P.S.This quote from the thread by Ross (Marriage should be primarily about raising children with one father and one mother.) is the part I was dealing with, nothing else, and my argument is simply that I disagree that marriage should be primarily about children. "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley Edited by Nightowl Jan. 14, 2004, 10:12:21 PM EST Expand All History
Post #135,821 by boxley 1/14/04 10:17:48 PM Reply	No need to debate your religion at all just wanted to make my point that marriage is a religious ceremony not a state function and most christian sects require kids. No more no less my point supports doc that marriage in the main requires children being tended by the birth mother and impregnating father in a family structure. Having kids outside of that structure is harmful to the kids. Your comment that marriage has nothing to do with kids is your opinion but not the opinion of the major christian faiths in america, or muslim or moonies for that matter. Marriage is a religious function not a state function so your comment that parenting is not part of marriage is refuted by the major religions. You are wrong thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #135,822 by Nightowl 1/14/04 10:22:50 PM Reply	That isn't quite what I said I don't recall saying the exact statement "marriage has nothing to do with kids", I said it wasn't dependent upon having children, that you could have a successful marriage without kids. I also do not recall saying the exact statement "parenting is not part of marriage" I believe I said it did not have to be, not that it wasn't. If I said either of these exact statements, exactly as you presented them, please show me where. I don't consider myself wrong on this issue, it's how I believe and my opinion on it, therefore it isn't right or wrong, it's right or wrong for me. Thanks. Nightowl >8# "It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman "Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley
Post #135,826 by Another Scott 1/14/04 10:49:39 PM Reply	So infertile people shouldn't be able to marry? (new thread) Created as new thread #135825 titled [link\|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=135825\|So infertile people shouldn't be able to marry?]
Post #135,857 by Silverlock 1/15/04 8:58:10 AM Reply	On Catholic birth control Most Christian Sects have an obligation to have children, like the Catholics for example. It is a sin for them to use any sort of birth control except the rythm method. Question: What do you call women who rely on the rhythm method? Answer: Mothers. ----------------------------------------- "After months of searching and billions of dollars, we've finally captured the man who had absolutely nothing to do with 9-11 !" -Rob Cordry, The Daily Show
Post #135,864 by hnick 1/15/04 9:40:22 AM Reply	Re: On Catholic birth control The Irish have a Pope sanctioned birth control pill. It weights 2 tons. The wife rolls it up against the bedroom door and the husband can't get in...
Post #135,866 by ben_tilly 1/15/04 10:18:28 AM Reply	State marriages are more than a tax sham Like it or not, society gives a lot of weight to the word "married". And most people react to outward symbols of marriage (eg rings). Furthermore, most people have an emotional reaction when those symbols apply personally. The magnitude of this effect shocked me after I got married. The reality of this effect is why I believe that marriage matters for people no matter how religious they are or aren't. It is a label. It shouldn't matter. I can argue that until I'm blue in the face. But I'm human and irrational and the point of fact is that it does make a difference that equivalent legal arrangements can't. Cheers, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi]
Post #135,942 by boxley 1/15/04 6:37:44 PM Reply	marriage matters to whom? Could you define a little further please? Like it or not, society gives a lot of weight to the word "married". And most people react to outward symbols of marriage (eg rings). Furthermore, most people have an emotional reaction when those symbols apply personally. If I am understanding this statement you think exactly "what" reactions are gotten when a marriage partnership is perceived people dont hit on your "wife" makes you think she is chaste, chaste is a religious value not a fashion statement people dont think you are "gay" shouldnt matter what other people think Need better definition to the statement otherwise I think marriage==people think you might have a set of values defined by religion as opposed to being religious==pretnding to be religious to fit in (although you are very straightforward when speaking of your positions on religion) thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #135,996 by ben_tilly 1/15/04 9:30:47 PM Reply	Immediate respect At 21 when I said, "my wife", most people that I met responded with a lot more respect for the relationship than they would if I had said "my girlfriend", "my live-in girlfriend", etc. Despite my age, people recognized and reacted to the label. I admit that some of the respect is that people would see the ring and not hit on us. (Random note: gays seem less deterred by a ring than heterosexuals. I've been told that that is because a lot of gays get married so to avoid discrimination, but intend all along to continue acting gay.) As someone who didn't want to deal with being hit on, it was nice to reduce that stress. Nothing there about feeling that she was chaste or not chaste. It just reduced the amount of stress, and is nice to have constant recognition that the world knows that I am in a committed relationship. Similarly the label had an emotional impact on me. The level of commitment with marriage is much higher, and I felt myself react to that. One change was that this allowed me to engage on more difficult levels because I worried less about the other person leaving and more about the relationship. A note that I should make. I come from a family that regards marriage less seriously than most do. First of all I wasn't raised to be particularly religious. Second, many close relatives have gone through multiple marriages, and cynically view them as temporary. Third, more than a couple of relatives viewed my marriage as temporary. But even with a background that I would have thought would make me not react to being married, I had a surprisingly strong reaction. Cheers, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi]
Post #136,004 by boxley 1/15/04 9:44:25 PM Reply	wondered if that was it Similarly the label had an emotional impact on me. The level of commitment with marriage is much higher, and I felt myself react to that. One change was that this allowed me to engage on more difficult levels because I worried less about the other person leaving and more about the relationship. roped and tied I agree with that emotion. But the reason you had this emotion and why other people react is to the vestige of religious "dont touch a married woman". Just because you arnt personally religious doesnt mean the vestige of the religious thoughts on the matter in society at large didnt affect you subliminally. thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #135,874 by Arkadiy 1/15/04 10:53:39 AM Reply	deS gets better and better Now infidelity is a good thing for marriage. What's next? Defending gay promiscuity? -- "It\ufffds possible to build a reasonably prosperous society that invests in its people, doesn\ufffdt invade its neighbors, opposes Israel and stands up to America. (Just look at France.)" -- James Lileks
Post #135,929 by deSitter 1/15/04 5:50:49 PM Reply	Re: deS gets better and better Huh? I've never cheated anyone and don't think I could do it. My claim was that marriage is more important than sex when kids are involved. When did I advocate infidelity? I despise cheaters. -drl
Post #135,998 by ben_tilly 1/15/04 9:33:52 PM Reply	Where you advocated infidelity is... in [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=135775\|http://z.iwethey.org...?contentid=135775] where you say, Marriage should not be primarily about humping, and indeed in a better society, people could allow themselves to maintain a stable family while obtaining their humpage elsewhere, should it be necessary. If a married couple is "obtaining their humpage elsewhere", then that is marital infidelity in most people's books. Cheers, Ben "good ideas and bad code build communities, the other three combinations do not" - [link\|http://archives.real-time.com/pipermail/cocoon-devel/2000-October/003023.html\|Stefano Mazzocchi]
Post #136,048 by deSitter 1/16/04 8:49:38 AM Reply	Re: Where you advocated infidelity is... Right, this was bitter sarcasm directed at those who would sacrifice their kids' well-being for a roll with a floozie or a soap-opera girlie-man. If you just have to do, then get it over with and get on with your family life. -drl
Post #135,805 by boxley 1/14/04 9:33:41 PM Reply	yer last sentence is incorrect having been on the wrong side of a bull dagger with a baseball bat :-) thanx, bill same old crap, con artists ripping off fools. Ah, hell, Catholic Church it start off that way. They All do. Jesus probably had three walnut shells one pea, then he's dead and can't be questioned, Gabriel Dupre questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]

Welcome to IWETHEY!