Post #194,038
2/10/05 6:09:37 PM
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Not all for herself
Women have plenty of mating opportunities. True. For a graphical illustration, how many women could be prostitutes if they really wanted to be? Even the unattractive ones generally could - see the concept of a "skag".
However they don't have so many opportunities to mate with desirable men.
They also have even fewer opportunities to get men to settle down.
And even fewer opportunities to get desirable men to settle down.
So for a woman to have the matings that she wants is a competitive situation. And she is competing with other women for it.
Most of the details of womanly competition men are cheerfully oblivious to. Conversely women tend to hold with some distain the details of the hierarchies that men build with each other. However both sexes have a fairly accurate idea how well individuals of the other sex do in that internal competition, and respond accordingly.
Cheers,
Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #194,127
2/11/05 9:34:59 AM
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You all dont get it
Wrong wrong wrong. We dont spend an hour in the bathroom every morning to impress other women. It's to impress YOU. You men are the prize. We do it to compete with other women for the prize, not to impress other women. You're not oblivious to our efforts. For the most part, you respond to them. If you're at a bar and have to choose between a frump or a women who puts some time and effort into her appearance- who are you going to be drawn to first?????
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Post #194,144
2/11/05 10:34:30 AM
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Madison Avenue
Sees a competitive aspect, at least. Women are more likely have thier attention drawn by a beautiful woman than a handsome man. That's why ads targeting females don't have frumpy women in them.
It's not to attract a man. Men will be attracted anyway. It's to compete with other women.
Personally, I'd think jello wrestling would be a more effective form of competition, but hey, that's just me.
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Post #194,147
2/11/05 10:48:17 AM
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Not mud wrestling?
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Post #194,150
2/11/05 10:52:21 AM
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Well, OK
But jello has that lovely transparent quality...
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] Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #194,148
2/11/05 10:49:14 AM
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You're a...
LEAN...MEAN...FIGHTIN...MACHINE!!!!!
If you push something hard enough, it will fall over. Fudd's First Law of Opposition
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Post #194,163
2/11/05 11:58:37 AM
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Yeah; I, too, always identify with Oxberger (Candy).
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Post #194,158
2/11/05 11:43:09 AM
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Yes and no
I believe women do try hard to impress men, sure; but in a lot of cases, it appears they are trying to compete for the top 1% (financially or socially), not necessarily the normal marrying type.
The point I think Ben was trying to get at was from the male point of view. Most men aren't paying as much attention as women think. Beyond a certain amount of prepping just to look attractive, we don't require women to put that much work into it. In fact too much can intimidate a lot of men. How many guys would feel comfortable actually going up to a supermodel and asking her for a date?
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He won it by making the other poor dumb bastard die for his country..."
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Post #194,212
2/11/05 2:13:04 PM
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Bingo.
I saw "The Terminal" about a month ago, and for the first time in my life, I actually found Catherine Zeta-Jones an attractive woman. She's not excessively dolled up like she is in her other films - just an average woman.
And she looks a heck of a lot better to me that way.
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Post #194,217
2/11/05 2:31:16 PM
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That's why...
That's why I've liked Sandra Bullock. She tends to do the normal girl next door look (especially The Net).
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"I want you to remember that no bastard ever won a war by dying for his country.
He won it by making the other poor dumb bastard die for his country..."
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Post #194,223
2/11/05 3:21:51 PM
2/11/05 3:24:30 PM
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No. You don't get it.
Listen to the chorus of guys. Guys are oblivious. Really.
Oh, guys notice. We tend to be very visual. But we don't notice what women think we notice.
Experiment for you. Remember the last time that you got a hair cut. Remember who made unsolicited comments on it. Did the list include any guys? Likely not, and if there was one then he was probably in a relationship with you and considers it his job to notice and respond appropriately. Did the list include any gals? I'll bet it did!
Repeat said thought experiment with a nice piece of clothing. Most guys can't even tell you what the woman sitting next to them is wearing without turning and looking. Most women remember people by what they are wearing. Yet women expect men to react to what they effectively don't even see.
Guys are oblivious to what women do to enhance their appearances. Seriously oblivious.
In fact we often respond negatively to things that women are unaware of. Take perfume, for instance. I'm still looking for a polite way to say, "Your perfume makes me sick." Every so often I really want to say it to strangers in elevators, because it really is true. I know that they believe that it makes them more attractive. They're dead wrong.
Another example is lipstick. Some men react positively to it, others do not. I do not for the simple reason that it isn't fun to kiss lips with lipstick, chapstick, etc on them. I'm far from alone.
OTOH guys are very visual. If you want to know what the average guy notices, look at ads aimed at men. (Madison Avenue studies this kind of thing very seriously.) Beer ads are a good example. The faces don't have masses of make-up, secondary sexual attributes (primarily t&a) are played to the hilt.
Blunt, but effective.
So the point is quite straightforward. Women spend an hour a day in the bathroom and the net effect is that they impress (or not) other women, and most of the effort is wasted if they're really trying to get men to notice anything. Whatever women may think they are doing, what they are succeeding in doing is impressing other women, not attracting men.
Cheers,
Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
Edited by ben_tilly
Feb. 11, 2005, 03:24:30 PM EST
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Post #194,258
2/11/05 4:52:01 PM
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And Madison Avenue desperately wants to keep it that way.
Just how much money do you suppose there is in telling women, "Have narrow sholders and wider hips with thighs that have some substance. Be clean and comb your hair. Having sizeable boobs are a plus but not having them isn't a deal killer in most cases".
I don't smell a whole lot of money there, do you? Very small in comparison to the current market.
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Post #194,265
2/11/05 5:32:27 PM
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I'm sure it was someone here who pointed this out
And I think it was you, Andrew. The fashion industry is run by gay men. The models they prefer are the ones who look most like the young men they fantasize about. No straight man ever decided he liked the "waif look".
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Post #194,272
2/11/05 7:21:36 PM
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Yeah, it was probably me . .
. . but I wouldn't say "no straight man", there's all kinds of perverts on the straight side too.
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Post #194,320
2/12/05 1:21:11 AM
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Re: No. You don't get it.
So the point is quite straightforward. Women spend an hour a day in the bathroom and the net effect is that they impress (or not) other women, and most of the effort is wasted if they're really trying to get men to notice anything. Whatever women may think they are doing, what they are succeeding in doing is impressing other women, not attracting men. Hehehee! The only time I spend an hour in the bathroom is if I'm reading a good book on the throne. ;) Brenda Nightowl >8#
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Post #194,323
2/12/05 2:02:29 AM
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Good for you!
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