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by mmoffitt
8/26/05 8:10:37 PM
8/26/05 8:12:03 PM
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New As the father of two girls,one that just started high school
I have absolutely no idea. But one thing I believe I would consider is telling her (if you believe this) that you think you she should let her mother know, but the decision to tell her is absolutely hers and hers alone. You can think of it as cover, if you wish. But, if you don't tell your wife and nothing is ever said to her, it seems to me that you'd be in better standing with your wife if you told her you had left the decision to tell her up to your daughter. I agree with everything said above and would only add that if you tell her that you'll leave the decision to tell your wife up to her, that she is going to by-God talk to either you or her mother about it. And then, I'd take the suggestions in this thread about telling her in a non-threatening way that she's lucky to have learned this lesson without suffering any permanent damage.

Please keep in mind the fact that I am totally unqualified to offer advice when you are reading the above.
bcnu,
Mikem

It would seem, therefore, that the three human impulses embodied in religion are fear, conceit, and hatred. The purpose of religion, one might say, is to give an air of respectibility to these passions. -- Bertrand Russell
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As the father of two girls,one that just started high school
I have absolutely no idea. But one thing I believe I would consider is telling her (if you believe this) that you think you should let her mother know, but the decision to tell her is absolutely hers and hers alone. You can think of it as cover, if you wish. But, if you don't tell your wife and nothing is ever said to her, it seems to me that you'd be in better standing with your wife if you told her you had left the decision to tell her up to your daughter. I agree with everything said above and would only add that if you tell her that you'll leave the decision to tell your wife up to her, that she is going to by-God talk to either you or her mother about it. And then, I'd take the suggestions in this thread about telling her in a non-threatening way that she's lucky to have learned this lesson without suffering any permanent damage.

Please keep in mind the fact that I am totally unqualified to offer advice when you are reading the above.
bcnu,
Mikem

It would seem, therefore, that the three human impulses embodied in religion are fear, conceit, and hatred. The purpose of religion, one might say, is to give an air of respectibility to these passions. -- Bertrand Russell
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     Ok, how do I talk to my daughter? - (jbrabeck) - (51) - Aug. 26, 2005, 04:03:16 PM EDT
         Clintonitis? - (SpiceWare) - (3) - Aug. 26, 2005, 04:20:22 PM EDT
             Agreed, this is odds on the case. - (Silverlock) - Aug. 26, 2005, 05:00:40 PM EDT
             Not just teenagers think that. - (mmoffitt) - (1) - Aug. 26, 2005, 08:03:56 PM EDT
                 and what age were they in 1998? :-) -NT - (boxley) - Aug. 26, 2005, 08:13:33 PM EDT
         The possibilty exists - (bepatient) - Aug. 26, 2005, 04:54:46 PM EDT
         What do you want to say? - (tuberculosis) - Aug. 26, 2005, 05:05:37 PM EDT
         Time to leave a book or two around the house. - (imqwerky) - (1) - Aug. 26, 2005, 05:39:44 PM EDT
             I'm with Amy. This is a great time for education - (bionerd) - Aug. 27, 2005, 11:04:37 AM EDT
         simple - (boxley) - (1) - Aug. 26, 2005, 05:36:27 PM EDT
             bad assumption - (boxley) - Aug. 26, 2005, 08:12:35 PM EDT
         Chlamydia can be carried other ways - (JayMehaffey) - Aug. 26, 2005, 06:12:18 PM EDT
         Go with her to the clinic. - (Another Scott) - Aug. 26, 2005, 07:17:59 PM EDT
         I just asked my wife - (ben_tilly) - Aug. 26, 2005, 07:28:30 PM EDT
         As the father of two girls,one that just started high school - (mmoffitt) - Aug. 26, 2005, 08:12:03 PM EDT
         How old is your daughter? -NT - (imqwerky) - (35) - Aug. 27, 2005, 12:07:07 AM EDT
             #207935. - (Another Scott) - (1) - Aug. 27, 2005, 12:47:10 AM EDT
                 Thanks, Scott :-) -NT - (imqwerky) - Aug. 27, 2005, 02:11:48 AM EDT
             Re: How old is your daughter? - (pwhysall) - (3) - Aug. 27, 2005, 02:23:32 AM EDT
                 But young enough... - (ben_tilly) - (1) - Aug. 27, 2005, 03:30:31 AM EDT
                     Ewwwwww! -NT - (bionerd) - Aug. 27, 2005, 10:44:22 AM EDT
                 :-D -NT - (imqwerky) - Aug. 27, 2005, 04:36:23 PM EDT
             Scott was correct. 16 almost 17. - (jbrabeck) - (28) - Aug. 27, 2005, 05:13:05 PM EDT
                 Treatment - (bionerd) - (2) - Aug. 27, 2005, 05:29:10 PM EDT
                     single oral dose of azithromycin -NT - (jbrabeck) - (1) - Aug. 28, 2005, 07:12:53 AM EDT
                         Re: single oral dose of azithromycin - (bionerd) - Aug. 28, 2005, 10:11:56 AM EDT
                 You are about to destroy your marraige - (broomberg) - (1) - Aug. 27, 2005, 07:09:26 PM EDT
                     Brutal, but honest - (imqwerky) - Aug. 27, 2005, 07:25:24 PM EDT
                 Want to know why the clinic will not discuss? - (ben_tilly) - (22) - Aug. 27, 2005, 11:38:46 PM EDT
                     rightfully so for the safety of the child - (boxley) - Aug. 27, 2005, 11:43:50 PM EDT
                     I understand the reasoning behind all this - (bionerd) - (20) - Aug. 28, 2005, 10:26:52 AM EDT
                         I agree - (imqwerky) - (8) - Aug. 28, 2005, 12:29:40 PM EDT
                             try punch throwing, not blame throwing not confined to - (boxley) - Aug. 28, 2005, 03:00:49 PM EDT
                             Puh-LEEZE, Amy...Who you crappin'?!? - (jb4) - (6) - Aug. 29, 2005, 02:20:23 PM EDT
                                 Now wait a gosh darn minute, boyo! - (imqwerky) - (5) - Aug. 29, 2005, 06:17:50 PM EDT
                                     Get to the source of the problem.. - (mmoffitt) - (2) - Aug. 30, 2005, 10:52:12 AM EDT
                                         There's that literary device again... - (jb4) - (1) - Aug. 30, 2005, 02:29:52 PM EDT
                                             But he'd spell it 'judgment'.. Oh! those Idiom-thingies -NT - (Ashton) - Aug. 30, 2005, 06:35:36 PM EDT
                                     Apparently, there is a literary style in use here... - (jb4) - (1) - Aug. 30, 2005, 02:26:51 PM EDT
                                         Bite me, asshole (new thread) - (imqwerky) - Aug. 30, 2005, 02:52:42 PM EDT
                         Well said. - (Ashton) - (1) - Aug. 28, 2005, 06:07:47 PM EDT
                             Just for the record - (bionerd) - Aug. 29, 2005, 01:57:37 PM EDT
                         It can but... - (ben_tilly) - Aug. 29, 2005, 07:19:49 AM EDT
                         Another problem - (drewk) - (7) - Aug. 29, 2005, 09:02:19 AM EDT
                             Thank you for expressing my thoughts - (jbrabeck) - (1) - Aug. 29, 2005, 09:44:14 AM EDT
                                 Should provide consult w/ both of you there - (tuberculosis) - Aug. 21, 2007, 05:43:35 AM EDT
                             I still don't like it - (ben_tilly) - (4) - Aug. 29, 2005, 07:43:30 PM EDT
                                 It's the dog that didn't bark - (drewk) - (3) - Aug. 29, 2005, 08:08:41 PM EDT
                                     Point. But... - (ben_tilly) - Aug. 29, 2005, 08:13:42 PM EDT
                                     then you ask who signed the consent to treat forms - (boxley) - (1) - Aug. 29, 2005, 09:37:15 PM EDT
                                         Or, given the predilection physicians show for ... - (mmoffitt) - Aug. 30, 2005, 10:34:57 AM EDT
         Re: Ok, how do I talk to my daughter? - (ubernostrum) - Aug. 29, 2005, 05:43:25 AM EDT

Fight me!
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