Just so I'm clear ....

Post #274,306 by gdaustin 11/29/06 12:55:41 AM Reply	Just so I'm clear .... I'm a little late on the stories. All girls? And how many are yours and hers? Are there any that are both of yours? And how long before they're all 18? Downsizing to a house (or apartment) where you don't have room to accomodate them and the BFs may be the best option. It appears you're outnumbered and outgunned. But, if the real father will assist in being a parent, and if the grandparents cooperate, then maybe you've got a shot if they all send the same message. However, I just saw an "Intervention" TV ad where a drunk mom lost custody of her kids and still drinks multiple (personal) bottles of Vodka a day. Straight! Glen Austin
Post #274,331 by jbrabeck 11/29/06 10:13:41 AM Reply	Answers 5 Daughters. 3 Step, 2 Bio, 0 joint. Ages: 22, 20, 20, 18, 1711/12 (HS senior) My 2 are in college (Milwaukee and Duluth) Step 22 has baby (2 mo) and lives with bf 6 miles away. Step 20 is pg, in NG, lives with us. Her bf resides with her in basement. Step 17 is HS senior, currently living with her dad (since Sunday). Has decided he is too strict and wants to move in with a neighbor. As for "new" house, wife found one she really likes in Wisconsin. 60 mile commute (all freeway). 20 acre hobby farm. Worth looking at. A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
Post #274,526 by gdaustin 12/1/06 11:06:46 AM Reply	Sounds like you need to go hunting, football Or some other "guy stuff"... Wow 6 women. I couldn't handle it. Two are enough in my house. Now, you just need to get them "outta the house" and on their own. I would strongly suggest you start using the language I posted previously. "You're adults now. You are responsible for your own life. You need to be able to solve your own problems. I won't be around forever, and even if I am around a while longer, 5 girls all college age means we don't have a lot of extra money." Again, you will be in my prayers with 5 between 22 and 17, you need some prayers. Also, do they "work together" to solve problems (help each other out) or do they compete for your attention? This is a big thing we're trying to teach our 3 (11, 10, 6) is that they cannot compete for parent's love and resources. And they need to help each other out. Glen Austin
Post #274,549 by jbrabeck 12/1/06 1:21:34 PM Reply	Help? Each Other? What a concept. Sorry, but my wife is the biggest divider. She actually pits the kids against each other. (Very long story. Short version-she needs counseling for things that happened in the past, but does not acknowledge that she does.) I'm going to encourage the acquistion of a new house, be it the hobby farm or something else. Large enough for TEMPORARY visitors, and far enough away that the kids would not want to move in and commute (40-60 miles/1 hr drive - here in MN that's a significant drive. Avg is 20 min.) A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
Post #274,550 by jbrabeck 12/1/06 1:22:39 PM Reply	And thanks for the prayers, well wishes, and good thoughts. They are appreciated. A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
Post #274,528 by gdaustin 12/1/06 11:26:36 AM Reply	As for the Hobby Farm... Main house is yours and wife's. Kids get the "out buildings" or can get their bf's to build them their own house. Not a lot of bfs will sign up for that. I like that plan. Glen Austin

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