Why are we who we are?

We usually speak as who we are, per our personality.

This is something that's become more and more evident as I wrestle with the dilemmna of my SIL.

See, she's an abrupt, to the point, straight shooting person, and hence she speaks like that. It matches her personality.

Ex: Brenda: please do such and such, thanks.

Me for example, I would write, "Brenda, would you please do this for me? I would appreciate it, thanks."

Difference is in the abrupt and relaxed styles. If you tend to be laid back, you are writing/speaking in a relaxed manner. If you tend to be abrupt, you clip off your sentences and write/speak in the same manner. Programmers are a good example, mathematicians, another.

I would suspect that Ashton speaks in a thoughtful, complex manner, because he has a thoughtful complex personality. I would suspect that Box talks in a rushed, run together manner, that is somewhat haphazard, because he has a personality where he feels like he's rushing, or hurrying to present things, not necessarily an impatient one, but more like an eager one. He's eager to present his views.

I would have to truly examine others styles to have any idea whether my theory is correct, but so far in many, it's matched. Ross for example, he had a negative, sarcastic and abrasive manner many times in his posts, and he seemed to be a negative personality to boot.

So in a sense, our speaking/writing style reflects who and what we are.

That's my take on it, anyway.

Brenda

Post #222,385 by Nightowl 9/1/05 10:31:46 PM Reply	Why are we who we are? We usually speak as who we are, per our personality. This is something that's become more and more evident as I wrestle with the dilemmna of my SIL. See, she's an abrupt, to the point, straight shooting person, and hence she speaks like that. It matches her personality. Ex: Brenda: please do such and such, thanks. Me for example, I would write, "Brenda, would you please do this for me? I would appreciate it, thanks." Difference is in the abrupt and relaxed styles. If you tend to be laid back, you are writing/speaking in a relaxed manner. If you tend to be abrupt, you clip off your sentences and write/speak in the same manner. Programmers are a good example, mathematicians, another. I would suspect that Ashton speaks in a thoughtful, complex manner, because he has a thoughtful complex personality. I would suspect that Box talks in a rushed, run together manner, that is somewhat haphazard, because he has a personality where he feels like he's rushing, or hurrying to present things, not necessarily an impatient one, but more like an eager one. He's eager to present his views. I would have to truly examine others styles to have any idea whether my theory is correct, but so far in many, it's matched. Ross for example, he had a negative, sarcastic and abrasive manner many times in his posts, and he seemed to be a negative personality to boot. So in a sense, our speaking/writing style reflects who and what we are. That's my take on it, anyway. Brenda "Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"
Post #222,388 by broomberg 9/1/05 10:40:58 PM Reply	You are way off about Box Calm, slow, detailed speaker.
Post #222,389 by Nightowl 9/1/05 10:42:45 PM Reply	As I said I could be wrong, and I admit that. But a lot of people do mirror their personality in their speaking and/or writing methods. There's always the exceptions, of course. Brenda "Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"

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