I know plenty of people that I consider reasonable feminists in daily life. I'm one, and my wife is another. Unfortunately you don't know them.

When it comes to publically known feminists, I read feminist literature for a fairly brief period that ended a dozen years ago or so. After that point I felt myself well enough educated on the basics, and I didn't feel a need to continue learning more on the topic.

My impression then was that there certainly are some women who have become extremely radical. In some cases to a level where there is no point in talking to them. Those (relatively isolated) cases are fairly easy to find since they tend to be very noticable. However there are also some legitimate issues to get them upset. And there were plenty of reasonable moderates.

However to find some public examples I would have to go and read a bunch to find ones that I agree with who have published.

Cheers,
Ben