I don't know (either) how you de-program thousands (?) of wannabeAt least, I have an ideal of details of the local programming - mostly hearsay (and some first-hand) re the overseas variant. I see no 'solution' to any of the variants - until sufficient maturity occurs, that folk all over:
ex-virgins enroute ---> to an only slightly less-absurd Reward than er
Xian Heaven-with-harps. (And our own theological nostruns
intermixed with Govt. - demonstrate that we can't even de-program
ourselves.)
stop attributing their fav personal characteristics to.. the Mystery that existence is. The personal/customized-God stuff is a festering boil on the ass of humanity, and guarantees replay of all this stupid stuff. Indefinitely.
All the rest is: bandaids and BS, spun to a new tune periodically (and always - sanctimoniously).
A.