That was what I meant when I said "We do NOT have direct experience of living with the destruction of war."

We go there, we kill people, we come back to our nice, safe families.

We go there, we bomb buildings, we come back to our nice, safe homes.

We live in a safe environment (or just about as safe as can be found). At times, we leave this environment to go inflict some pain and loss on others and then we come back.