Post #188,849
1/2/05 11:52:02 PM
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My Happy New Year's present
the wife has asked me for a divorce.
So for all of you here who look down on me from your pedestals, enjoy.
lincoln
"Windows XP has so many holes in its security that any reasonable user will conclude it was designed by the same German officer who created the prison compound in "Hogan's Heroes." - Andy Ihnatko, Chicago Sun-Times
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Post #188,850
1/2/05 11:55:50 PM
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I hope nobody here is that much of a tool
I hope this didn't come as too much of a surprise. Having done it myself, I can only imagine it would be worse if you didn't see it coming.
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Post #188,851
1/3/05 12:02:55 AM
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I'm sorry Brian.
You've been through a lot. Try to keep your head up and look to the future. Things will get better.
Hang in there,
Scott.
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Post #188,852
1/3/05 12:07:39 AM
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I'm so sorry Lincoln
I know it's easy to say hang in there and you'll make it, but it's much much harder to actually do it, so I'll keep you in my thoughts that you'll get through this okay.
Brenda
Nightowl >8#
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #188,853
1/3/05 12:22:09 AM
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Not much of a present
I don't know who you think would be
laughing at such a thing.
It sucks.
I'm sorry it has happened to you.
Take care.
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Post #188,854
1/3/05 12:31:23 AM
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Well, I don't know . . .
. . whether to say "condolences" or "congratulations" since I'm totally unaware of the context - but hang in there and don't blow any gaskets (replacing a head gasket is a royal pain, especially since you usually have to mill the head).
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Post #188,871
1/3/05 10:38:11 AM
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I have to join Andrew
in not knowing what to say. Please hang in there...
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Q. I think I need to see a specialist, but my doctor insists he can handle my problem. Can a general practitioner really perform a heart transplant right in his/her office?
A. Hard to say, but considering that all you're risking is the $20 co-payment, there's no harm in giving it a shot.
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Post #188,855
1/3/05 12:55:23 AM
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Sorry to hear about that.
And noone here will be doing any pedestal dancing, I'm certain.
If you push something hard enough, it will fall over. Fudd's First Law of Opposition
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Post #188,858
1/3/05 2:18:14 AM
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I'm truly sorry to hear that
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #188,860
1/3/05 4:51:39 AM
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been on that road
Was an anniversary present for me. I suggest counseling. That and modern pharmacology brought me through. If you need an ear or an email address to vent to, feel free.
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Steve
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Post #188,867
1/3/05 8:44:30 AM
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Agree with this 10000%
I can easily concur with the medication thinger.
I'll never go back to being that way I was. EVER. I'd rather go broke then go back.
As for the Wife thing, I also agree some form of mediation/counseling is needed.
As far as the e-mail thingy... yeah that too. Even for the wife, my wife is awesome for a "Pen Pal".
Recently my wife lost her regular "PenPal" and wouldn't prolly mind another one.
Consider it for both of you.
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Post #188,861
1/3/05 5:11:18 AM
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Commiserations
I hope the process is as pain-free as possible.
Peter
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Post #188,864
1/3/05 6:57:05 AM
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That sucks.
[link|http://forfree.sytes.net|
] Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #188,865
1/3/05 7:04:42 AM
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Very sorry to hear it
Try not to lose your cool. The holidays are a crazy season. It may not be impossible that things will work out well.
Nobody's gloating.
Best of luck,
Hugh
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Post #188,866
1/3/05 7:37:51 AM
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Been there also
Twice, once when I left Germany, my German wife decided she wanted to stay in Germany, and then in '95 when mother of my kids decided to leave.
No, it doesn't get easier with practice.
Condolenses, and as Steve said, if you need to vent, question, holler, etc. Drop me a line
[link|mailto:jbrabeck@comcast.net|joe]
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
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Post #188,868
1/3/05 8:47:10 AM
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As some have pointed out...
We all feel for you.
I wish you the best of outcomes. May it be as painless as possible and shortlived if mendable.
-- [link|mailto:greg@gregfolkert.net|greg], [link|http://www.iwethey.org/ed_curry|REMEMBER ED CURRY!] @ iwethey[link|http://it.slashdot.org/comments.pl?sid=134485&cid=11233230|"Microsoft Security" is an even better oxymoron than "Miltary Intelligence"] No matter how much Microsoft supporters whine about how Linux and other operating systems have just as many bugs as their operating systems do, the bottom line is that the serious, gut-wrenching problems happen on Windows, not on Linux, not on Mac OS. -- [link|http://www.eweek.com/article2/0,1759,1622086,00.asp|source]
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Post #188,869
1/3/05 10:10:12 AM
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email sent
that way too many Iraqis conceived of free society as little more than a mosh pit with grenades. ANDISHEH NOURAEE
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Post #189,057
1/4/05 8:25:12 PM
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Re: email sent
Read and replied to. Thanx.
lincoln
"Windows XP has so many holes in its security that any reasonable user will conclude it was designed by the same German officer who created the prison compound in "Hogan's Heroes." - Andy Ihnatko, Chicago Sun-Times
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Post #188,882
1/3/05 2:47:36 PM
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Wow - sorry to hear
That sucks.
Little bits of advice I can offer include
1) Quit drinking for a bit. Its not good when depressed.
2) Seek the fellowship of happy single people - places that organize big group activities are what you want. This may be the largest single redeeming quality of churches is that they offer singles social groups - group activity stuff (adventure dating groups) are also good.
3) Work out some - walking 15 minutes is enough.
4) Eat good food.
Shout out if anybody here can do anything for you.
"The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." --Albert Einstein
"This is still a dangerous world. It's a world of madmen and uncertainty and potential mental losses." --George W. Bush
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Post #188,883
1/3/05 3:19:49 PM
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Whichever way you think I look at you -- down...
...from my pedestal, or up at you on yours -- I promise, it's definitely NOT a way that in any way enjoys stuff like this.
(Except, as a couple of the guys have mentioned already, you yourself were to find that, on reflection, you do.)
[link|mailto:MyUserId@MyISP.CountryCode|Christian R. Conrad]
(I live in Finland, and my e-mail in-box is at the Saunalahti company.)
Your lies are of Microsoftian Scale and boring to boot. Your 'depression' may be the closest you ever come to recognizing truth: you have no 'inferiority complex', you are inferior - and something inside you recognizes this. - [link|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=71575|Ashton Brown]
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Post #188,913
1/3/05 8:47:15 PM
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No pedestal here.
If I can do anything to help, let me know. I don't know a lot about divorce itself, but I'm intimately familiar with the effect it has on children, having experienced that myself. Let me know if there's anything I can do to help. I'm on comcast.net, and my account name is 'inthane'.
"Here at Ortillery Command we have at our disposal hundred megawatt laser beams, mach 20 titanium rods and guided thermonuclear bombs. Some people say we think that we're God. We're not God. We just borrowed his 'SMITE' button for our fire control system."
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Post #188,915
1/3/05 8:52:27 PM
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Linc, I am sorry.
I have a very close friend who had the very same "Christmas Gift". His lads are 2 and 4 years of age. There is nothing anyone can say that will make any difference. Just know that there are people in the "ether" who care and are saddened.
bcnu,
Mikem
Eine Leute. Eine Welt. Ein F\ufffdhrer.
(Just trying to be accepted in the New America)
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Post #188,924
1/3/05 10:09:41 PM
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sign me ditto....
....have never experienced divorce -- only death of a spouse.
Still, one is instant and final while the other can really
tear at your emotions.
As others here have suggested, if you need an ear feel free
to drop a line to: first name last name at apple charlie
mary dot organization.
Hang in there...
Slugbug
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Post #188,931
1/3/05 10:39:51 PM
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Consolation is not
possible, of course. But you can only look up, from that unenviable position.
Up happens too - others have reported.
Hoping that you're about due.
moi
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Post #188,939
1/3/05 11:46:45 PM
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Sorry to hear of it, Brian! :(
Alex
The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. -- Bertrand Russell
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Post #188,947
1/4/05 1:15:46 AM
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that's no present
I don't know if you're feeling sorry for yourself or just defensive. Either way, I understand. It's gotta hurt. Try to keep a clear head and don't do anything you'll regret. Here's the tricky part--deciding what you might regret. Take some time to figure it out. You probably shouldn't try to do it on your own. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor. There's no easy way through this, but to hang in there.
Have fun,
Carl Forde
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Post #188,957
1/4/05 7:21:24 AM
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Sorry for you
I've been divorced for 5 years now and I still am not really over it. I can empathize buddy. As others have said, watch out for the booze.
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There is a time when the operation of the machine becomes so odious, makes you so sick at heart that you can't take part; you can't even tacitly take part, and you've got to put your bodies upon the gears and upon the wheels, upon the levers, upon all the apparatus and you've got to make it stop. And you've got to indicate to the people who run it, to the people who own it, that unless you're free, the machines will be prevented from working at all
Mario Savio
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Post #189,058
1/4/05 8:28:31 PM
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Booze is no big deal
After all, I only drink MGD or something similar, totalling maybe a 6 or 12 pack a month. It's so minimal I can go cold turkey ASAP without breaking a sweat.
As far as harder stuff, legal and non-legal, can't afford it.
lincoln
"Windows XP has so many holes in its security that any reasonable user will conclude it was designed by the same German officer who created the prison compound in "Hogan's Heroes." - Andy Ihnatko, Chicago Sun-Times
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Post #188,967
1/4/05 10:08:33 AM
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I'm very sorry to hear that
Keep your chin up. As others have said, don't booze. I'd personally also recommend avoiding the modern pharmacology thing.
Things will work out for the best, I'm sure.
Take care.
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Post #189,046
1/4/05 7:04:16 PM
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Damn!
That's all I can say....Very sorry!
jb4
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