Good anology, not every Christian thinks the way they should either.

There is a subtle difference between believing your understanding of something is correct and believing that somebody that holds a different one must be wrong. The difference has a lot to do with pride, in the Christian sin sense of the word.

Someone may twist the definition of a Jihad but it is not suppoed to be a holy war

The usage of the word 'jihad' varies between the major two branchs of the Islamic faith. The Sunni use the word in the 'holy war' sense and use the 'inner struggle' sense only in a minor way if at all. The Sufi often use the word in the 'inner struggle' sense first, 'holy war' second.

The ProIslam site you linked to appears to be very Sufi. I would almost go so far as to say it's intentionally over stating it's case.

Take this page [link|http://www.proislam.com/dawah_warfare.htm|Islam, Warfare and Jihad]. The author quotes 2:190 and 2:192-193 but skips 2:191 which goes like this.
And kill them wherever you find them, and drive them out from whence they drove you out, and persecution is severer than slaughter, and do not fight with them at the Sacred Mosque until they fight with you in it, but if they do fight you, then slay them; such is the recompense of the unbelievers.

In the same pattern he quotes 4:75 which tells followers of Islam to free the opprosed, but skips 4:76 which reads
Those who believe fight in the way of Allah, and those who disbelieve fight in the way of the Shaitan. Fight therefore against the friends of the Shaitan; surely the strategy of the Shaitan is weak.

and that is rather general clearance to fight anybody that doesn't follow Islam.

No mention at all is to be found of 8:65 where god tells the prophet to urge believers to war nor any mention of 5:33 where god proclaims that those that wage war against Allah should be murdered among other penalties.

The Islamic faith covers as broad a spectrum of beliefs as the Christian religion. Both violent and non-violent beliefs are to be found in both groups.

Here is the [link|http://etext.lib.virginia.edu/koran.html|Koran] I referenced for english translations, Koran references are chapter:line.

Jay