even if nearby ones might be paragons. Death in Murica seems to bring out all the tacit contradictions between avowed 'beliefs' about cheerful charity and..

As an also former conservator, executor yada.. been there. In my case it was simply the final straw for a certain branch, whose previous behavior upon my mater's death - had revealed that character-thing.

Feel proud to be such a Black Sheep! Neither life nor death are 'democratic' - despite our tenacity in imagineering our enviro. (Hey - you at least missed out on the cremate or not dance).

Condolences on your own feelings about the loss. It may help to realize that lots of the nit-picking is simply avoidance therapy for the carpers, probably little to do with the surface 'resentment'. (Besides, they prolly "despise" you - cause you be smart. It's a Murican Thing.) Y'know? Screw that. Take no never mind.


Ashton