...that makes us both old farts.
Theres no "code wording" going on. There's no "questioning of values". Since the 70s...the stratification may be getting worse...but its been there all along.
There are norms established. Get outside of those norms and you are rejected.
This trend has degenerated to such a point now that "zero tolerance" policies for childrens behavior are now normal and accepted. "You shall act like x...any deviation and you will be summarily rejected".
In addition..the truly liberal carry this to extreme..."If it offends >one< person...then it is offensive to all" and thus cannot be introduced...only ignored.
And thats just where we're at now...I can't wait to see it in 5 to 10 more years.