Post #222,101
8/31/05 11:53:53 PM
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Does she have tentacles?
I'm not sure why I got an anime flashback from that <shudder> but i think you may be just a bit *conditioned*. The same thing happens to me. I've seen or heard the same thing so many times that I *expect* to see/hear it again and even minor instances seem major if you know what I mean.
Mom's harp on you. That's their job.
My Mom Means Well. I know that for a fact. No matter how hard it is to beleive.
----------------------------------------- George W. Bush and his PNAC handlers sent the US into Iraq with lies. I find myself rethinking my opposition to the death penalty.
--Donald Dean Richards Jr.
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Post #222,108
9/1/05 12:04:23 AM
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And that's the bottom line
My Mom Means Well. I know that for a fact. No matter how hard it is to beleive. That is what's most important, and once you realize that, even the bad relationships with parents make more sense. My mom and I used to fight constantly. We'd throw things down the hall at one another, scream at the tops of our lungs and pound the nearest objects into submission. After I moved out however, I made a conscious effort to understand WHY mom was like she was. That was an enlightening experience, she and I now have a much better relationship, and actually enjoy communicating and seeing one another for the most part. We still have our bad days, or bad experiences, but we've managed to create a working daughter/mother relationship out of a failed one. Brenda
"Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"
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Post #222,116
9/1/05 12:17:47 AM
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She is toxic to me.
I don't need that kind of shit in my life. I know why she is the way she is. I've told her that she needs therapy and she actually said to me in a sarcastic manner, "Oh, I'm SO fucked-up,aren't I?" To which I got up from the table and left, saying,"You know, I can't even have an adult conversation with you."
She is 65 years old. There is no chance, short of a miracle, that she is going to change. Got some books for you to read, sugar. Toxic Parents by Susan Forward and Emotional Incest by Patricia Love.
Linky:[link|http://www.webheights.net/GrowingbeyondEmotionalAbuse/plove/plei.htm|http://www.webheight...se/plove/plei.htm]
I was not the chosen child, my brother is. And it turns my stomach! But, that is not my problem. That is his challenge to act upon.
Goody for you that you have a relationship with your mother. It sounds stifling and contrived and I'm glad I'm not you. She still has an iron grasp on your life...sux2bu. Read the above books and break free! No charge for the counseling, this time.
Now, I'm done with this rant. I want to move on to better things.
Adios, a.
" I tend to believe the great voices of peace throughout history {were} right, and this voice from this little hamlet here in Texas is absolutely wrong. The world is watching what you do here. It is important that you be calm, that you be peaceful, but you be firm. My grandmother {used to} say, \ufffdFight them \ufffdtil hell freezes over, and when hell freezes over, fight them on the ice.\ufffd
Dallas Reverend Peter Johnson, former staff member of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference.
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Post #222,121
9/1/05 12:26:18 AM
9/1/05 12:27:10 AM
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I'm not saying she isn't.
I didn't say every single mother means well, I said the bottom line for Silverlock was that he knew his did. Not every mother means well, and I applaud you for being free of yours.
Think what you like, but my relationship with my mother is not stifling and contrived. She has no iron grasp on my life, trust me. It's a genuine relationship that we have managed to find and nurture out of the painful past. We even both had therapy. Not everyone can do that, and not everyone should. It would always depend on the people involved.
Brenda
"Excel is to math what a Microwave Oven is to cooking!"
Edited by Nightowl
Sept. 1, 2005, 12:27:10 AM EDT
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Post #223,266
9/6/05 8:50:29 PM
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I beg to differ...
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179. I will not outsource core functions. -- [link|http://omega.med.yale.edu/~pcy5/misc/overlord2.htm|.]
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Post #222,115
9/1/05 12:16:29 AM
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That doesn't hold for me
Well actually it does. My mother does mean well. Unfortunately her definition of "well" and my definition of "well" bear no relation.
Cheers, Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #222,119
9/1/05 12:20:47 AM
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She hides them well. :-/
" I tend to believe the great voices of peace throughout history {were} right, and this voice from this little hamlet here in Texas is absolutely wrong. The world is watching what you do here. It is important that you be calm, that you be peaceful, but you be firm. My grandmother {used to} say, \ufffdFight them \ufffdtil hell freezes over, and when hell freezes over, fight them on the ice.\ufffd
Dallas Reverend Peter Johnson, former staff member of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference.
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Post #222,129
9/1/05 12:54:41 AM
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For some reason, I read that as TESTICLES
Wonder what THAT means?
-- Steve
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Post #222,155
9/1/05 8:09:12 AM
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You're gay. :-D
" I tend to believe the great voices of peace throughout history {were} right, and this voice from this little hamlet here in Texas is absolutely wrong. The world is watching what you do here. It is important that you be calm, that you be peaceful, but you be firm. My grandmother {used to} say, \ufffdFight them \ufffdtil hell freezes over, and when hell freezes over, fight them on the ice.\ufffd
Dallas Reverend Peter Johnson, former staff member of the Southern Christian Leadership Conference.
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Post #222,223
9/1/05 1:27:37 PM
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Dang. My wife will be disappointed.
-- Steve
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Post #222,239
9/1/05 2:15:22 PM
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ROTFL :-D
"Losing your mind is like losing your keys. You have to retrace your steps to find out where you left them. But the bonus is that you usually find loose change in the cushions." ABR '05 :-D
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