Post #277,200
1/2/07 4:24:39 PM
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I have failed...
We took Mandy back today.
My wife can't come near her for the nausea, and the kids still get bitten every day...
We decided to give her up while she is still a puppy and has a chance to get re-adopted. She needs an adult-only or teenager family.
Intellectually I think we did the right thing.
In my heart, I feel like a sorry loser and, to borrow an older expression, a scrub.
Daniel and Michael cried...
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Post #277,201
1/2/07 4:38:32 PM
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I'm very sorry. Don't be hard on yourself.
You did the right thing. Your kids will come to understand over time.
Hang in there.
Cheers,
Scott.
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Post #277,204
1/2/07 5:19:43 PM
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you didnt fail, you realized it wouldnt work
while the dog is still adoptable. If you consider another dog try a gentle breed such as a bloodhound, boston terrier or french bulldog.
thanx,
bill
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Post #277,355
1/3/07 11:16:44 PM
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Ditto that thought.
Alex
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Post #277,225
1/2/07 8:29:02 PM
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Sorry to hear that
Some breeds -- scratch that, some individual dogs -- require something different from what you've got. Whether it's kids vs. adults, country vs. city, whatever, it's hard to say. I hope you find one better suited. Good luck.
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Post #277,227
1/2/07 9:33:51 PM
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You did the right thing for your family AND the animal...
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #277,241
1/3/07 12:02:20 AM
1/3/07 12:30:03 AM
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*nod*
oops, meant to reply to Arkadiy
a little short term pain will be worth the growth your children experience from this event. It in NO WAY reflects negatively on you as a father, in fact it's quite the opposite. In this day and age of cocoon-like child seats for cars, instant antiseptic handwash to prevent spread of germs, bicycle helmets, etc, etc, we've learned to help minimize the physical risks our children are exposed to. However, we've somehow transferred that feeling of safety we have to the emotional growth of them as well: we've come to expect that they will deal with little or no emotional pain growing up. And while it may pain us to see them endure such pain, it's a very healthy and necessary part of their maturation. They're dealing with loss which is akin to the grieving process. As they go through this now with their parents to help them understand and deal with what they're feeling, the next time will be easier on them. When they no longer have you there to help them process, they'll be able to deal with pain maturely as adults.
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Edited by Steve Lowe
Jan. 3, 2007, 12:29:40 AM EST
Edited by Steve Lowe
Jan. 3, 2007, 12:30:03 AM EST
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Post #277,361
1/3/07 11:42:03 PM
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You didn't fail, honestly!
It's better to make a decision like that one early, so that there isn't a lot of attachment to get past. I'm sure a gentler and kinder puppy will be a much better fit.
Good luck with it!
Brenda
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