Post #237,345
12/8/05 12:59:05 PM
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It's over.
Today, I packed my bags and left. Will be starting over anew. 9.5 years gone.
When somebody asks you to trade your freedom for security, it isn't your security they're talking about.
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Post #237,347
12/8/05 1:18:52 PM
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......
Let me know if there is anything I can do.
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #237,348
12/8/05 1:23:20 PM
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I'm so sorry, Inthane.
It's always hard when a relationship ends, (which I'm assuming is what happened here). Hang in there and remember that you are strong, and that we are all here for you when you need us.
Brenda
"I'll rock the darn boat all I want to, and if it's meant to stay afloat, then it will. If not, then we'll just all go down with the bloody ship!"
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Post #237,350
12/8/05 1:25:48 PM
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Know how you feel
Mine's on the rocks too. Has been for months.
One bad consequence has been that it's turned me into a very angry person. I'm going to have to get past that somehow.
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Post #237,356
12/8/05 2:00:09 PM
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Sorry no hear as well :(
Jake, I know where you're at...and yes, getting past the anger is so hard, but so important. Hang in there, man, and just play your guitar :)
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Steve
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Post #237,358
12/8/05 2:05:09 PM
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Been doing a lot of that
Part of it is that you can't just cut off comm when you have children, as we do. It makes it easy to stoke up the fires.
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Post #237,363
12/8/05 2:55:07 PM
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Understand that
The conflict between wanting this person completely out of your life and trying to do what's best for the kiddos. I often wished my ex would get hit by a bus..but then considered how my son would feel about losing his mom.
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Steve
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Post #237,364
12/8/05 3:11:37 PM
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I don't feel that way about her
OTOH, it wasn't really my choice exactly. Well, you know, it's complicated. She's complicated, and she's been an angry person for a lot longer than I have. She even has good reasons to be angry; the only problem is that while the causes haven't been mine in the majority part, I have received the majority if not all of the fallout.
Negotiations are ongoing, but right now it's definitely off.
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Post #237,362
12/8/05 2:45:39 PM
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Sorry to hear about your situation too, Jake
Wishing you better times and comfort for your soul.
Hugs,
Amy
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." ~ George Eliot
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Post #237,402
12/8/05 9:35:52 PM
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Thanks Amy
It's not necessarily the Final End, but things have got to change... and I'm not there now.
I know what our kids want to see happen; we'll see if it ends up working out that way.
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Post #237,404
12/8/05 9:45:44 PM
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Fingers crossed here too. Good luck.
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Post #237,406
12/8/05 9:53:20 PM
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Luck!
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #237,410
12/8/05 9:57:30 PM
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Luck, too!
jb4
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Post #237,455
12/9/05 12:13:15 PM
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As I told Thane
Feel free to email me if you need to blow off steam or just want to chat. Been there twice. It's never easy nor painless..
Good luck...
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
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Post #238,118
12/14/05 11:45:43 PM
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Hang in there Jake!
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers that things work out for the good and that your kids cope with whatever happens!
Brenda
"I'll rock the darn boat all I want to, and if it's meant to stay afloat, then it will. If not, then we'll just all go down with the bloody ship!"
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Post #237,351
12/8/05 1:27:35 PM
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Very sorry to hear :(
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Post #237,352
12/8/05 1:46:47 PM
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Thane-shoot me an email
the letter jay, the letter bee and the number fore! At burnsgroup period. Follow that with the TLA for commercial.
Sorry to hear....
jb4
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Post #237,353
12/8/05 1:47:46 PM
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Sorry. Hang tough my friend.
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We don't torture.
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Post #237,354
12/8/05 1:57:32 PM
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So Sorry to hear. :(
Anything you need, my full name at google's mail.
I've been there, my first marriage only lasted 4 years.
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Steve
[link|http://www.ubuntulinux.org|Ubuntu]
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Post #237,355
12/8/05 1:57:50 PM
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Very sorry to hear. :-( Hang in there. Keep posting.
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Post #237,360
12/8/05 2:30:09 PM
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condolences
been there ... twice, and it's never easy.
my id at comcast dot net if you wanna talk.
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
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Post #237,361
12/8/05 2:38:53 PM
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We love you and care about you.
Sorry to hear about your sorrow. It sucks that we all must go through such bad times. That is why we need to be here for each other. Together, we can help each other survive.
Love and peace,
Amy
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." ~ George Eliot
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Post #237,367
12/8/05 4:03:08 PM
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Sorry to hear, book recommend
[link|http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0679730028/103-0790345-3579049?v=glance&n=283155|Uncoupling] may help you understand what you are going through now.
Regards,
Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #237,374
12/8/05 5:42:29 PM
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Oh, man.... let me know if there is anything I can do
hardest thing to go thru,
bill
"the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli
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Post #237,382
12/8/05 6:29:18 PM
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Sorry
Don't think of it as 9 years shot.
Think of it as an education.
Yeah, bullshit.
Nothing really helps but time at this point.
Hang in there.
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Post #237,384
12/8/05 6:31:00 PM
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Condolences.
If you need to talk to someone who's been there, done that, you already have my email address. Drop a line.
-YendorMike
"They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety."
- Benjamin Franklin, 1759 Historical Review of Pennsylvania
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Post #237,388
12/8/05 7:35:28 PM
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Triple sucks - email me
and lets go out someplace.
BTW, I have a new cell phone (just got it) so email for # tobl at work or tblanchard at six colored fruit company flagship computer isp.
"Whenever you find you are on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect" --Mark Twain
"The significant problems we face cannot be solved at the same level of thinking we were at when we created them." --Albert Einstein
"This is still a dangerous world. It's a world of madmen and uncertainty and potential mental losses." --George W. Bush
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Post #237,393
12/8/05 8:09:58 PM
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Not gone
All time spent is a learning experience, if nothing else.
Doesn't make it any easier though. Very sorry to hear it.
There's a place back east for it if'n you need it.
If you push something hard enough, it will fall over. Fudd's First Law of Opposition
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Post #237,400
12/8/05 9:30:19 PM
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Sorry to hear you're in pain, Thane!
Alex
The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. -- Bertrand Russell
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Post #237,433
12/9/05 12:24:20 AM
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never easy,...
the death of a relationship always hurts. mourn the loss, but remember the good times you had together, but you can't start over by holding onto what you had. give yourself time to heal and to adjust to your new situation. you're fortunate to have friends who've been through similar whom you can talk with and think things through. take it easy and don't do anything you will regret.
Have fun,
Carl Forde
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Post #237,441
12/9/05 5:04:53 AM
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El Sucko. Good thoughts continuing.
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Post #237,442
12/9/05 6:33:33 AM
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Sorry, I know it's hard.
Try not to think of it as 9.5 years gone. There were a lot of good times, I'm sure. Don't lose them. Keep the good times, remember the bad times dispassionately for reference and keep moving.
I hope your path gets easier.
Good luck.
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Post #237,443
12/9/05 7:00:58 AM
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Damn,
Sorry - -
You have a good heart; hope that will keep imagination stifled a bit while you sort out.
(Try for something that makes endorphins, y'hear?)
We primates can do that, even when a chuckle seems a long way away.
Good thoughts,
moi
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Post #237,446
12/9/05 10:34:08 AM
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Sorry to hear it :-(
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Post #237,461
12/9/05 12:56:00 PM
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Sorry to hear it has come to this . . .
. . but it isn't 9.5 years gone. It'll take time to forget the bad and remember the good and the lessons learned, but it will happen if you let it. Bitterness likes to stick around but it's for you own good to throw it out.
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