for the Parenting with Love and Logic book. I had the good fortune to actually hear Foster Kline give the lecture. It really puts things in their proper perspective.
I love how he relates discipline to being a cop. A cop ordinarily doesn't shout at you when you break the law. He calmly tells you the infraction, deals with you with a modicum of respect and how many times have you thanked a cop when he gave you a ticket?
If you can deal with your kid in that way, it takes the emotion out of things and bases itself in fact. Cause and effect, freedom and responsibility.
Really helped me when I was first navigating the parental waters.
Peace,
Amy