Thank you all so much.

It means a lot to have you guys rooting for me. All your offers of support make me feel all mushy inside. You dont know what it means to have people in my corner (people whom I never met, but are there for me!) when I feel that I am fighting this alone. Thank you. Thank you all.

I'm gonna be whiney and needy for a while. If you dont want to hear about the drama, avoid my posts. I'm sick of it all myself, but a girl's gotta vent. You know what? My life is so fucked up right now I've turned into one of my clients. I'm just like the people I talk to every day. My life is a Jerry Springer episode. I HATE IT!

I was reading my Friend of the Court Handbook- these are the people in MI responsible for child support enforcement. The opening sentence in the book reads

"We are not your friend".

I can tell this is going to be fun. I left a message for my court appointed referee. A summary of her outgoing message: I prefer you dont leave a message. Fax me your questions. If you leave a message, I will respond to you. If you leave a message or send a fax, dont contact me again. I will get back with you.

Uhh...okay. And a good day to you, too, lady.

The Ass and the Mrs. are flying in from butt fuck Iowa (I've used that expression before, but never has it been so appropriate) tomorrow. My son doesnt want to see his dad, so I'm shipping him off to a neighbor. My daughter is excited because she is hoping her Dad will bring her a present. The innocence of a 6 year old. She's too pure of heart to be crushed yet.

I dont know if The Ass has an agenda for this little visit, other than incorporating the children into his happily-ever-after fantasy, but I will be reviewing the divorce judgment with him and obtaining the information I need to pursue legal action. His gin soaked addled brain wont even anticipate this. His new wife will not like me, guaranteed. Fine way for them to start a marriage. Stupid, stupid people.

Post #222,449 by bionerd 9/2/05 10:35:47 AM Reply	Thank you all so much. It means a lot to have you guys rooting for me. All your offers of support make me feel all mushy inside. You dont know what it means to have people in my corner (people whom I never met, but are there for me!) when I feel that I am fighting this alone. Thank you. Thank you all. I'm gonna be whiney and needy for a while. If you dont want to hear about the drama, avoid my posts. I'm sick of it all myself, but a girl's gotta vent. You know what? My life is so fucked up right now I've turned into one of my clients. I'm just like the people I talk to every day. My life is a Jerry Springer episode. I HATE IT! I was reading my Friend of the Court Handbook- these are the people in MI responsible for child support enforcement. The opening sentence in the book reads "We are not your friend". I can tell this is going to be fun. I left a message for my court appointed referee. A summary of her outgoing message: I prefer you dont leave a message. Fax me your questions. If you leave a message, I will respond to you. If you leave a message or send a fax, dont contact me again. I will get back with you. Uhh...okay. And a good day to you, too, lady. The Ass and the Mrs. are flying in from butt fuck Iowa (I've used that expression before, but never has it been so appropriate) tomorrow. My son doesnt want to see his dad, so I'm shipping him off to a neighbor. My daughter is excited because she is hoping her Dad will bring her a present. The innocence of a 6 year old. She's too pure of heart to be crushed yet. I dont know if The Ass has an agenda for this little visit, other than incorporating the children into his happily-ever-after fantasy, but I will be reviewing the divorce judgment with him and obtaining the information I need to pursue legal action. His gin soaked addled brain wont even anticipate this. His new wife will not like me, guaranteed. Fine way for them to start a marriage. Stupid, stupid people.
Post #222,453 by Yendor 9/2/05 10:52:15 AM Reply	She doesn't need to like you Your responsibility is to do what's best for the kids -- and it sounds like that is exactly what you're doing. Don't let a little thing like some new wife stand in the way of watching out for your sprogs. Along with the rest of the people here, my sympathies go out to you in your time of need. I hope for your sake that things turn out even better than you presently expect in your wildest dreams. -YendorMike "They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety." - Benjamin Franklin, 1759 Historical Review of Pennsylvania
Post #222,468 by Another Scott 9/2/05 12:33:55 PM Reply	How do we contact you off-line? If you don't have one, consider a GMail [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=220716\|account]. Please post an obfuscated version of the address (it doesn't have to be your name) so that we can contact you. You (er, we) Michiganders (I was born in Trenton) can be a stubborn lot. Don't refuse our help. It doesn't do anyone any good. :-) Thanks. Cheers, Scott.
Post #222,486 by bionerd 9/2/05 2:24:31 PM Reply	So far, still have the work email laurad at responseworks dot com Am setting up a consulting thing with my old boss so I can continue to work a bit for him and get some money flowing my way asap. I'm shifting out of the panic mode today and getting mobilized. Now I'm just plain pissed. The revenge fantasies are starting to surface. I figure that's a good thing.
Post #222,489 by Another Scott 9/2/05 2:34:57 PM Reply	Thanks. Go check it. :-)
Post #222,491 by bionerd 9/2/05 2:45:57 PM Reply	just did- nothing yet :-(
Post #222,492 by Another Scott 9/2/05 2:50:22 PM Reply	Hmm. A note to the UK and back has already finished. VA to MI shouldn't take that long, but who knows... I'll try again in a couple of hours if you still don't have it by then. Cheers, Scott.
Post #222,493 by bionerd 9/2/05 2:52:11 PM Reply	I've been pinging a friend back and forth in MN just now with no probs. I'm sure it'll bounce in soon.
Post #222,505 by Another Scott 9/2/05 3:58:11 PM Reply	Resent it just now...
Post #222,508 by bionerd 9/2/05 4:00:32 PM Reply	Got it- check your inbox. (and thanks)
Post #222,510 by Another Scott 9/2/05 4:14:37 PM Reply	Likewise.
Post #222,494 by bepatient 9/2/05 2:54:58 PM Reply	Those fantasies are good They will help keep your sanity. Make some of them that don't involve bloodshed or physical torture come true on his Tom Collin's ass! :-) If you push something hard enough, it will fall over. _{Fudd's First Law of Opposition} [link\|mailto:bepatient@aol.com\|BePatient]
Post #222,499 by ChrisR 9/2/05 3:01:51 PM Reply	La vengeance est un plat qui se mange froid
Post #222,516 by Ashton 9/2/05 5:29:17 PM Reply	Prec\ufffdsamente, amigo____\ufffdVerdad!
Post #222,501 by ben_tilly 9/2/05 3:02:18 PM Reply	ICLRPD (new thread) Created as new thread #222500 titled [link\|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=222500\|ICLRPD] I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
Post #222,502 by boxley 9/2/05 3:07:17 PM Reply	make your favorite meatloaf for them alpo lotsa garlic and use Heinz chili seafood sauce for flavoring thanx, bill "the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #222,512 by cforde 9/2/05 4:26:23 PM Reply	be that way... "...I'm shifting out of the panic mode today and getting mobilized. Now I'm just plain pissed." There you go. Regrets: be careful not to do anything you will regret later. It's too late for him. :-) Have fun, Carl Forde
Post #222,560 by jbrabeck 9/3/05 9:13:27 AM Reply	If your meeting may be confrontational Then have the new wife stay in the car. DON'T invite her in. She will, of course, take her "pure as the driven snow" new hubby's side. You've, more than likely, been demonized. Best yet, is to have a male friend with you to defend you when things get ugly. Sorry to bring this all up, but this type of issue can get pretty ugly, pretty quick and you need to remember that. And I'll second the meatloaf suggestion. :-) ot: where abouts in MN is your friend? A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
Post #222,566 by bionerd 9/3/05 9:56:17 AM Reply	I thought about having a male friend come over But thought that might escalate things more. Ex would probably view that as me throwing my love life (what love life?) in his face and he would take it as an affront. That's how he sees things. I'm not looking forward to battling with them alone, though. I have a couple of neighbors on alert- they will help out if needed. I like the meatloaf recipe, too, but am not going to waste a perfectly good can of alpo on them. Little Sadie has to eat, too! Friends in MN are in Rochester- docs at the Mayo clinic. I have another friend in Eagan. They are trying to convince me to relocate out there. We'll see.
Post #222,568 by jbrabeck 9/3/05 10:00:01 AM Reply	OT: add me to the arm twisting crowd Live in St. Paul, work in Eagan. Would gladly welcome you to the tundra. A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
Post #222,569 by jbrabeck 9/3/05 10:01:44 AM Reply	If he brings wife, you're entitled to have male friend there A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
Post #222,571 by broomberg 9/3/05 10:09:35 AM Reply	Nothing to do with that. Yes, you should have support. No, it should not be a male VS fame thing. A coupe of well armed women within shouting distance would probably be a good thing.
Post #222,573 by boxley 9/3/05 10:24:06 AM Reply	a couple of female cowboys would do nicely "the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #222,579 by bionerd 9/3/05 10:30:35 AM Reply	Shoot, a couple of male cowboys hanging around would do nicely, too! Yee haw!
Post #222,581 by boxley 9/3/05 10:33:17 AM Reply	around here female cowboys are females that enjoyeach others company and are tough as wild bill hickok on steroids thanx, bill "the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep questions, help? [link\|mailto:pappas@catholic.org\|email pappas at catholic.org]
Post #222,582 by bionerd 9/3/05 10:34:53 AM Reply	oh. well, I dont want them around
Post #222,584 by broomberg 9/3/05 11:07:54 AM Reply	My brother'in'law called them "Turbo Diesels"
Post #222,627 by imqwerky 9/3/05 3:12:54 PM Reply	Advice from a mediator/friend I have a friend who has been a mediator. She suggested meeting on neutral territory, as that levels the playing field. With other people present or nearby, violence is less likely to break out. If it does, all the cellphones will be dialing 9-1-1. Hope this helps. Wishing you peace, Amy "Losing your mind is like losing your keys. You have to retrace your steps to find out where you left it. But the bonus is that you usually find loose change in the cushions." ABR '05 :-D
Post #222,635 by bionerd 9/3/05 3:52:52 PM Reply	I kicked butt!!! (new thread) Created as new thread #222634 titled [link\|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=222634\|I kicked butt!!!]

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