I read some of the old posts but didnt realize you were a long-time friend of his. I hope you didnt think I was being insensitive. From the sound of it, you did the right thing. Dont regret putting your needs first and taking care of yourself. If you dont do it, who will? Right? Stay strong. :-)


I didn't think you were being insensitive at all, honestly. I asked myself the question of why I stayed friends with him and coped with him many many times over the two and a half years... and the main reason was because I was afraid for his young son, now 5 years old, I think, whom he cares for in the daytime. But in the end, it's not my responsibility, and I can't protect his son anyway, so I bowed out.

My regret is really that I hurt him, because I did, but I also saw no other way to extriciate myself from the mess he'd made.

Thanks, Bionerd. :)

Brenda