Post #434,885
6/28/20 11:33:27 PM
6/28/20 11:33:27 PM
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It just keeps getting better
He may have had a stroke, but apparently it's Alzheimer's/dementia, and it's been getting bad for a while. He thinks he still owns cars and motorcycles that he hasn't had for 20 years. He's seeing people in the house who aren't there.
And not only has my mother not been saying anything to me about it, she's losing it, too. Thinking is still fine, but short-term memory is gone. She asked me four times today what happened to my foot.
The Aunt I'm staying with told me that my mother moved my father's 401k, their entire savings, to ... somewhere else, but she doesn't know where the paperwork is.
The only good news is my brother talked to mom and she's on board with getting an in-home caregiver (until the savings run out, assuming they still have any, but that's a separate conversation).
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Post #434,888
6/29/20 12:13:45 AM
6/29/20 12:13:45 AM
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your foot not the parents :-)
"Science is the belief in the ignorance of the experts" – Richard Feynman
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Post #434,890
6/29/20 12:16:47 AM
6/29/20 12:16:47 AM
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Thought I said ... Yeah, I did
I was sitting cross-legged on the floor for an hour. My foot was asleep when I tried to stand up, and I stepped on the side instead of the bottom of my foot.
Cracky snappy.
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Post #434,891
6/29/20 12:18:35 AM
6/29/20 12:18:35 AM
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ok missed that, ouch!
"Science is the belief in the ignorance of the experts" – Richard Feynman
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Post #434,894
6/29/20 4:07:09 AM
6/29/20 4:07:09 AM
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Most sorry to hear of so narsty a convergence as seems near enough ... Diabolical.
Don't know how common is my similar encounter with some of your (surprises): When my Uncle broke his hip, just feet from any chance to grab him, i next found that my Aunt's confusion had deteriorated greatly since last I'd visited (I was there after a shopping trip with Uncle, in the event).
What surprised was--later on--Uncle said that "he didn't know she was That-far along"; I wondered how he could have missed. that. y'know? The event elected moi as Conservator of both, thus one tip: You may have to look in odd places for the papperwork you'll be seeking. I (plus a friend of both, an LVN who oversaw Uncle's treatment) found things in dresser drawers along-the-way, which just didn't fit any rationale.
Good Luck re all the un-expectables!
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Post #434,900
6/29/20 12:11:29 PM
6/29/20 12:11:30 PM
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Yup, convergence seems to be going around.
My assistant, T.
- Got thrown our of room she's rented for 10 years by the land lady's insane, drugged up daughter.
- She put all her belongings in storage while searching for a room.
- Was still searching for a room when her brother went in for cancer in Texas, so she went there to support him.
- The visit to Texas got extended because the brother got stuck in quarantine for two weeks due to COVID before the doctors would look at him.
- Meanwhile, she was doing her publication work for the church over the Internet (which is how she normally worked). Then the church pretty much closed down, cutting off her income.
- Then she came down with severe intestinal problems, but didn't see a doctor due to the COVID.
- When she did, the surgeon told her that being near death was common now because people put off seeing a doctor due to COVID. She was nearing death from a ruptured appendix.
- Got emergency surgery but wasn't recovering at all well.
- Turns out she also has other abdominal abscesses. Now she wears a bag with a tube going into her innards to drain stuff.
- She remains pretty much bed ridden and can't do any work.
- The storage outfit calls her daily with threats, demanding she pay up the past due rent.
- Now she's staying with her mother in Alabama. "We'll all remain serene and calm, when Alabama gets the Bomb".
- Well, at least she hasn't got the COVID yet - hope she's not in Montgomery county.
I've told her in the past what Jesus will say to her during the Judgement, for being a Republican, a rabid Trump Supporter, and a rabid believer in the Church of Paul - but maybe Jesus has decided not to wait.
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Post #434,903
6/29/20 4:20:09 PM
6/29/20 4:20:09 PM
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Ummmm..
Send Her a couple bucks? ..if she loses-Too, all-her-Stuff: well, you know..
[Even if she's so ethically deranged as to merit mountains of obloquy.. this is surely a kinda litmus-test of, simple generosity-of-spirit, innit?]
I mean--that you Dislike the object of pity!--(in my 'cases' anyway, having been there)--I aver that such improbable acts generate the better-kind of endorphins.
(Nor would I even attempt to rationalize any list-of Why??s)
Carrion ..it's all around ..but remains-Unreal ;^>
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Post #434,909
6/29/20 5:23:20 PM
6/29/20 5:23:20 PM
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Oh, I've bailed her out of one disaster . . .
. . after another, but she refused any assistance for her stuff in storage. When this is all over she's pretty much going to have to start life over anyway. It's all fallen completely apart - just when she thought she was through with troubles.
She has a bit of an arrogant streak which has not served her well in recent times, and it took her a long time to get over no longer being a cute young chicky who could get away with anything. She sure did try to hang onto that though.
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Post #434,918
6/29/20 8:00:48 PM
6/29/20 8:00:48 PM
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Ahh.. Understood (!) to a fare-thee-well. :-)
{{sigh}}
There was a young-un who stiffed me outta a ~$600 'loan' (for some cockamamie 'trip' or other), way-back.
Still am in regular contact with her (older) sister; when X's name came up, first thing she said was,
"Did A. say anything about me??"
(D punted; already knew the story, and shares with moi that er, 'Cream of the Jest?'--as ever needs patience).
As-in: [Heh..] proof positive that she still-Realizes the scam And nowadays (when she's a lawyer of some ilk + usual excessive-$$)
with which to attempt some sorta atone?ment: Well, You. Know.
Schadenfrude preview? as the Sis and I are likely to remain in contact and these two + many (used to) congregate farmily-style:
it shall become Fun to see if she finally Grows a Pair, eh?
Over & Out.
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Post #434,920
6/29/20 8:52:08 PM
6/29/20 8:52:08 PM
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Translation:
Woman: "Could you please loan me some cash? I'll pay it back right away. Promise
Translated: Give me some money - errr ... Please.
Actually T has made more effort to pay me back than any other woman has, but she is still significantly behind. At this time I'm not sure I'll ever see her again. I don't see how she can afford to be in Los Angeles now - unless she dumped the church and went back to working for media companies.
One of the Immutable Facts of human existence: women are expensive.
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