Point being is that getting sex should not be a motive for marriage but a nice side effect of a relationship.

Yes, if there was not sex I would be in a murderous rage most of the time.
Is it a coping thing? Nope otherwise I wouldnt be married I would be catting around.

Would you rather
watch a ball game
drink alchohol with friends
watch a movie
play music
do drugs
listen to music
go jogging
have sex with someone else

if you would rather do anything but fuck there is something wrong with you unless you just finished up a good one
thanx,
bill