Post #262,327
7/20/06 5:25:41 PM
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Just so the e-mails stop.
My wife almost filed for divorce on Monday. Filling out everything needed to get it done. But didn't file.
Today, my part time employer (for insurance reasons) and Agreement I had with him about hosting is Null and void.
I resigned and am in the process of removing all of my stuff.
When I got home right after the resignation, the wife tells me she is indeed filing.
Don't know how much more I can take this past few weeks.
BTW, teh backups are run everynight located in "/usr/local/var/lib/postgres/backups" for the 2345 instance of postgres
/var/lib/postgres/backups is the backups for the 5432 instance of postgres
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0 rows returned.
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Post #262,331
7/20/06 5:32:43 PM
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Damn!
Just plain Damn!
Greg, I'm sure that I'm not alone in wishing you whatever good vibes and best wishes can be mustered and sent your way during this really down period in your life. I wish you the best and am looking forward to hearing from you again once everything settles down. Not just because I'll miss IWETHEY, but because I'll miss you.
I can live w/o IWETHEY, but living without friends, even virtual ones, is so much harder...
jb4
"So don't pay attention to the approval ratings that say 68% of Americans disapprove of the job this man is doing. I ask you this, does that not also logically mean that 68% approve of the job he's not doing? Think about it. I haven't."
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Post #262,333
7/20/06 5:34:43 PM
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Like I said, give me a call if you want.
Regards,
-scott anderson
"Welcome to Rivendell, Mr. Anderson..."
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Post #262,334
7/20/06 5:54:21 PM
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pickup the phone iffen you need to
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Post #262,335
7/20/06 5:55:38 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear that Greg
remember that things WILL get better.
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Post #262,337
7/20/06 6:44:58 PM
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You know where I live
and if I recall correctly, you also think the sleeping arrangements quite comfy.
Too much of today's music is fashionable crap dressed as artistry.Adrian Belew
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Post #262,339
7/20/06 7:21:25 PM
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I'm very sorry, Greg.
You've been through an awful lot the last X months. I'm very sorry.
Hang in there. As jb said, things will get better.
Please call on me to help if I can do anything. You've got my addresses.
Best wishes,
Scott.
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Post #262,340
7/20/06 7:33:36 PM
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And I thought I had bad luck lately.
I'm really sorry to hear that. :(
Hurt me if you must, but let the duckie go!
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Post #262,341
7/20/06 7:36:45 PM
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I'm glad I hugged you at the Bash.
Keep your chin up. We are all in your corner.
The Mighty Folkert always lands on his feet.
Smile,
Amy
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Post #262,343
7/20/06 8:44:46 PM
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Hang tough, Greg
Tom Sinclair
"This is a lovely party," said the Bursar to a chair, "I wish I was here."
-- The Bursar is a man under a *lot* of stress
(Terry Pratchett, Lords and Ladies)
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Post #262,344
7/20/06 9:09:02 PM
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Dude.
Just... dude.
If you need anything, let me know. I'll do my best.
You can alway contact me at gfolkert@mail.refers.com.
Switch the '.com' with a '.to' .
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #262,347
7/20/06 11:19:17 PM
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Ditto the all the above thoughts.
And as others have said, let me know if there's anything I can do.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
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Post #262,352
7/21/06 2:37:48 AM
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ouch
that's going to be tough load to carry. don't try to carry it all on your own. take the time you need to clear your head and set your priorities. and ask for help once you figure out how you want to proceed, or even figuring out how you want to proceed.... rash decisions will come back to haunt you.
take time to breathe and think and remember to take the long view. best wishes for a quick return to stability.
Have fun,
Carl Forde
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Post #262,354
7/21/06 4:32:00 AM
7/21/06 4:36:23 AM
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Redundant - see A Scott's ref below.
Not linked - just because.
Edit: was just reminding what addy works; no post there, now.
Edited by Ashton
July 21, 2006, 04:36:23 AM EDT
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Post #262,357
7/21/06 5:37:49 AM
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So sorry, Greg. Hang in there.
Like everyone else, if there's anything I can do, please ask.
Good luck,
Hugh
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Post #262,360
7/21/06 7:21:15 AM
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Keep your chin up.
Things will improve.
Peter
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Post #262,363
7/21/06 9:01:28 AM
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So sorry to hear this
I've got a queen size futon if you want to visit Champaign. Lots of computer work in this town (for its size). Lots of businesses as offshoots of U of I. We are also home to [link|http://www.wolfram.com/|Wolfram Research].
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Post #262,364
7/21/06 9:19:31 AM
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Nothing to say, but sorry man
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Post #262,375
7/21/06 11:08:48 AM
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:-(
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Post #262,390
7/21/06 2:38:27 PM
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Ouch, Hang Tough
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Post #262,391
7/21/06 2:41:38 PM
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ditto on the above and...
first name dot last name at google's mail service...drop a line if you need anything. stay strong and keep it positive!
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Post #262,423
7/21/06 10:25:25 PM
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As one who has also stood at the edge of that cliff
I'll send prayers your way.
lincoln
"Chicago to my mind was the only place to be. ... I above all liked the city because it was filled with people all a-bustle, and the clatter of hooves and carriages, and with delivery wagons and drays and peddlers and the boom and clank of freight trains. And when those black clouds came sailing in from the west, pouring thunderstorms upon us so that you couldn't hear the cries or curses of humankind, I liked that best of all. Chicago could stand up to the worst God had to offer. I understood why it was built--a place for trade, of course, with railroads and ships and so on, but mostly to give all of us a magnitude of defiance that is not provided by one house on the plains. And the plains is where those storms come from." -- E.L. Doctorow
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Post #262,427
7/21/06 10:54:34 PM
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Sorry as well
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Post #262,476
7/23/06 12:44:30 AM
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Sorry, hang in bud
"Pictures are better then words because some words are big and hard to understand"
Peter Griffin (Family Guy)
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Post #262,550
7/24/06 8:36:09 PM
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I share your pain.
My wife and I are just about to part ways, too.
Wade.
"Insert crowbar. Apply force."
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Post #262,551
7/24/06 8:38:37 PM
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:-(
I'm sorry. Please talk about it if it'll help - it doesn't have to be here. Find someone to share your feelings with.
Hang in there.
Cheers,
Scott.
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Post #262,553
7/24/06 9:54:18 PM
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There's been problems for months.
"Insert crowbar. Apply force."
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Post #262,554
7/24/06 10:03:35 PM
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There often are.
You can start a new thread under a new ID if you'd like to keep it more anonymous.
It's good to talk about it, even if doing so doesn't solve the problem. Sometimes a fresh perspective helps.
I'm sure it's a tough situation for both of you.
Hang in there.
Cheers,
Scott.
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Post #262,556
7/24/06 10:10:54 PM
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Since yours is a generally level head
it doesn't have to become nasty; most of us haven't been sanely prepared while growing up, for the fact that some personalities just won't dovetail, even after accommodations.
(Wasn't Who Knew?? invented as the .zip equivalent of that?)
FWIW and IME yada.. some formerly-marrieds become great friends, later on; their shared experience counts in uncountable ways.
Commiserations, and ..Luck!
Ashton
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Post #262,558
7/24/06 10:26:18 PM
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Sometimes even during.
There was the local divorce of Neil and Nancy. The visible reason for divorce was Neil's torrid affair with Eva, but who knows what else there may have been.
mutual friend - "Have you heard about Nancy and Neil?"
me - "Yes."
friend - "Have you talked to either of them?"
Me - "Yes, both, but not for a few days, they're on vacation up north."
friend - "What do you mean they're on vacation? Together? They're getting a divorce!"
me - "Yes, but they hold that the vacation was planned before the divorce so they're taking it."
After the divorce Neil and Eva occasionally had Nancy over for dinner and sometimes they planned activities together. All in all the smoothest divorce I've seen or heard of.
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Post #262,580
7/25/06 10:08:12 AM
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It's wonderful when people actually act like adults.
Smile,
Amy
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Post #262,552
7/24/06 9:37:55 PM
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Ugh.
I'm sorry to hear that. This has been a terrible year for marriages, hasn't it?
Hurt me if you must, but let the duckie go!
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Post #262,562
7/24/06 11:27:41 PM
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Every year is a terrible year for marriages
Are you sure, as a species, we should even accept the concept?
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Post #262,564
7/25/06 12:02:53 AM
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Problematic or not - it's probably necessary.
The main problem is the length of time, attention and particularly the expense of bringing up human children. Marriage may not be a really good solution to this problem but it seems to be the best one we've got.
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Post #262,574
7/25/06 9:12:35 AM
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Concentration camp?
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Post #262,565
7/25/06 2:22:34 AM
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:-( Sorry to hear it.
Two out of three people wonder where the other one is.
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Post #262,566
7/25/06 2:29:26 AM
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So sorry to hear, Wade. :-(
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Steve
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Post #262,569
7/25/06 8:37:26 AM
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Aww cheese :-( dunno what to say
fling me an email iffen you want to harang about it
bill
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Post #262,573
7/25/06 9:11:54 AM
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Sorry to hear that
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Post #262,575
7/25/06 9:15:52 AM
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Condolences, Wade.
Feel free to email me if you want.
Regards,
-scott anderson
"Welcome to Rivendell, Mr. Anderson..."
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Post #262,577
7/25/06 9:33:41 AM
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Damn damn damn damn damn
Best wishes, FWIW.
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Post #262,582
7/25/06 10:12:35 AM
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Sorry things suck so much.
If you need a female perspective, you can email me at imquirky at comcast dotnet. Hang in there, Wade.
Hugs,
Amy
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Post #262,642
7/26/06 2:28:55 AM
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I'm living one day at a time. :-)
"Insert crowbar. Apply force."
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Post #262,587
7/25/06 12:10:31 PM
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Nothing to add, just condolenses.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
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Post #262,589
7/25/06 12:40:47 PM
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Sorry to hear.
More "Damn!" (Seems there's a never-ending supply of that stuff, doesn't it?)
jb4
"So don't pay attention to the approval ratings that say 68% of Americans disapprove of the job this man is doing. I ask you this, does that not also logically mean that 68% approve of the job he's not doing? Think about it. I haven't."
— Stephen Colbert, at the White House Correspondent's Dinner 29Apr06
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Post #262,733
7/27/06 9:19:19 AM
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My support and prayers are with both of you
Greg, hang in there, you'll get through this with strength and dignity. Trust me, I learned this past 7 days that we are all tougher than we think we are. We just have to reach the point where we learn it.
If there's anything I can do, I echo everyone else here in offering.
I also echo the collective's thoughts that we will miss YOU. You are more important than IWT, and remember we are all here for you in any way we can be.
Wade, same thing. I'm sure that you can find a way to get through all this, and manage to come out with your strength and dignity intact.
As someone mentioned, both of you should find someone to talk to about all this, either public or non-public. Holding it inside will just shred your soul. Let it out.
Sending good thoughts and wishes to you both.
Brenda
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Post #263,020
7/30/06 2:29:42 PM
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Damn it, Greg! Things got worse.
Hang in there, guy!
Alex
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