become a jerk, but if learning to play one on TV gets the job done I'm willing to learn.
I tried the "faith based" approach to women you recommend for a long time and it only got me brushed off. Women say they want a nice guy and can't find one, and they may even be telling the truth - nice guys may actually be invisible to single women.
Now I'm not completely without experience on the other side either. The only women who ever chased after me (and a couple with persistence) were ones I treated badly because I thought them not what I was looking for.
Sometimes I've wondered if perhaps I should have just trapped one of those and made her my sex slave. She probably would have been happy enough with that but I expect I'd have gotten bored - what I really wanted was a highly intelligent lady with perhaps some artistic talent - but they all married overweight mortgage loan brokers.