Post #238,315
12/16/05 12:41:23 PM
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I was recently talking
to my friend, Cyndi (yes, Bill, my 'pet blonde') about this very subject.
It's not that women want you treat them like dirt. It's not that they want shallow, self-centered, dishonest or abusive guys. She said that my former theory (that dirtbags get girls because the girls don't want to feel guilty if they dump them later) is only true in the minority of situations.
It's not that they don't appreciate being a 'nice guy' either - it's that being a 'good guy' is NOT an attribute that is attractive; that is, it's not what catches their attention, it's not part of a successful 'mating display'.
It is, however, the nice, honorable, honest, generous and appreciative attributes that can KEEP a woman - those are the things that can make you special enough to keep over others.
Now, if only she'll let me in on what DOES make for a successful 'mating display' and isn't mutually exclusive to those things that make for 'nice guys', I'll write my own book, make millions, AND add to the general happiness of men and women everywhere...
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #238,316
12/16/05 12:53:00 PM
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When you make those millions
just remember who your friends are :-)
If you push something hard enough, it will fall over. Fudd's First Law of Opposition
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Post #238,317
12/16/05 12:58:06 PM
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we need a design for the t-shirt
Imric's Posse
mega-goth meets redneck theme?
thanx,
bill
"the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli
Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep
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Post #238,318
12/16/05 12:59:31 PM
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Oh - I will.
And to prove it, I'll post the secret here, first - give everybody here a 'leg up' so to speak...
Imric's Tips for Living
- Paranoia Is a Survival Trait
- Pessimists are never disappointed - but sometimes, if they are very lucky, they can be pleasantly surprised...
- Even though everyone is out to get you, it doesn't matter unless you let them win.
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Nothing is as simple as it seems in the beginning,
As hopeless as it seems in the middle,
Or as finished as it seems in the end.
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Post #238,327
12/16/05 1:50:45 PM
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Don't bother ... I don't need it any more
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Post #238,330
12/16/05 2:00:49 PM
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Exactly the situation.
The problem is the jerks succeed and women marry them or work out some other arrangement - then want the jerk to turn into the kind of guy that couldn't get their attention. Of course, he's already been trained as to "what works" and sees no incentive to give that up.
"When a man and a woman get married, she thinks she can change him and he thinks she'll never change. Both are wrong."
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Post #238,348
12/16/05 4:32:00 PM
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I think it is a matter of numbers and no fear of rejection
The jerk will keep asking as many as possible woman to date, and will push for what he wants as soon as possible. If you come across many women on an ongoing basis, and approach all of them that you consider the slightest bit attactive, then it is simply a matter of time before you score.
But the key issue is not to stop asking new ones. Keep the current one for occasional sex, refuse to commit to anything that is not immediate pleasurable for you, and keep trying for new ones.
Always have the excuse that you are running out on a business meeting, etc, to show both how important you are and while you really want to commit, it would be unfair to her since you are never around.
After a while, you've built up a list that you can called upon as desired.
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Post #238,385
12/16/05 9:02:55 PM
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Bill Hicks said/sang it best
Chicks dig jerks. While I know that's incredibly shallow, it's nevertheless pretty damned accurate. At least for some women. Most every woman I've had a relationship with has some horror story of the bad boy she fell for. A couple of them proceeded to go back to him after me. One of them was meeting up with the ex while we were living together. And he was a true prize, on probation for B&E, the asshole found out where I lived, broke in and ripped me off. While she was living with me. She left, got back with him, got beat up, came back to me and asked to be taken back. I said no. I don't do that.
I personally know one couple who only stay together because the sex is good. Nothing else whatsoever about that relationship is healthy. Big house, frightened kids, suspicious bruises, screaming fights, etc. but they're good in bed so that makes it all worthwhile, right?
On the gripping hand, I know several couples who have healthy and mutually supportive relationships. Wish I knw how they did it.
Let me say that again; I wish I knew how they did it.
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Post #238,387
12/16/05 9:13:49 PM
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paragraph 2 smackgobs me
had one of those once, stitches all over my head, but boy could she shake that thang. Trouble is I wasnt the only one she was shaking it at, that will take the glow off.
thanx,
bill
"the reason people don't buy conspiracy theories is that they think conspiracy means everyone is on the same program. Thats not how it works. Everybody has a different program. They just all want the same guy dead. Socrates was a gadfly, but I bet he took time out to screw somebodies wife" Gus Vitelli
Any opinions expressed by me are mine alone, posted from my home computer, on my own time as a free american and do not reflect the opinions of any person or company that I have had professional relations with in the past 49 years. meep
questions, help? [link|mailto:pappas@catholic.org|email pappas at catholic.org]
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