Post #235,860
11/24/05 10:27:30 AM
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Nah, you just want to nail a stripper.
Follow your MOUSE
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Post #235,867
11/24/05 10:42:44 AM
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Been there, done that.
While I may have certain regrets, the overall experience is one I'll cherish to my old age.
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Post #235,900
11/24/05 3:53:28 PM
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Who the Heck are you to call Barry a liar?!? (new thread)
Created as new thread #235899 titled [link|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=235899|Who the Heck are you to call Barry a liar?!?]
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Post #235,916
11/24/05 6:10:55 PM
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/me raises hand
I was merely suggesting that "DreamGirl" was pushing Don's buttons for a certain response and on more that one occasion, she kept getting the overprotective response of "I've known strippers, it's not a good life, yada yada yada..." From my perspective, she knows that strikes a nerve with Don and for some reason likes to keep hammering that point. Since they have only been out a couple of times, it is not Don's place to tell her what she should or should not do. I think she is playing head games.
So, Don has many choices. 1)He can completely stop seeing her. 2)He can continue to see her and continue to play this head game. 3) He can continue to see her but call her on her continual discussion of that subject (direct confrontation) And finally, 4) Continue to see her, but be more subtle when it comes to that subject (redirect the conversation or deflect all responsibility to her).
Don, considering that you have feelings for her, I don't want to see you throw the baby out with the bath water. Don't be afraid to face the real issue. I think she is worried about being controlled. It is so early in your relationship that this episode can be a learning experience for you both. Don't be afraid to risk a little. You might be surprised at the result.
Good luck and think positive.
Hugs, Amy
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." ~ George Eliot
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Post #236,330
11/28/05 4:45:01 PM
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I'm not going to lose a friend over this.
Her thinking on the whole stripper angle, as she explained it, is something like; I keep getting treated as if my good looks are the only good quality I have. Promotions at work etc. go to the guys. If my looks are getting in the way at my chosen profession, maybe I should get a stripper job where they *won't* get in the way. Once I can make enough money, I'll move to LA where my looks won't get in the way and I can go back to being an architect.
I don't think this is good. I've told her that. She doesn't agree. Nuff said. We'll stay drinking buddies and she has a shoulder to cry on when she needs it but I'm taking any romance off the table.
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Post #236,335
11/28/05 5:01:02 PM
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Huh?
I'll move to LA where my looks won't get in the way
Don't the guys in LA look at women?
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail ... but, a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Damn...that was fun!"
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Post #236,340
11/28/05 5:12:25 PM
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She might get lost in the crowd
There is a high density of attractive women out here. A large fraction think they are actresses.
Cheers, Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #236,351
11/28/05 7:13:45 PM
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/me bows humbly and exits stage left
guess that's why they didn't ask me to take over Ann and Abby. :-)
She has some seriously flawed logic going on there, but you told her that and wouldn't listen.
I have been in that position before. I gave the best advice in the world, but it went in one ear and out the other. It's very frustrating when someone won't listen. I had to step back from the situation and I totally respect your decision to do the same.
I know that if I ever need some good advice, I can ask you. (Especially if I ever think of becoming a stripper ;-)
Hugs and peace, Amy
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." ~ George Eliot
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Post #236,420
11/29/05 11:04:33 AM
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Naw, You didn't take over for Ann & abby, cuz...
1) you don't live in Chicago and
2) You're not twins.
(Now there's a scary thought...twin quirks!)
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Post #236,430
11/29/05 12:05:35 PM
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Would that make them quarks?
Don't think "top/bottom" ... don't think "top/bottom" ...
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Post #236,456
11/29/05 4:00:25 PM
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Squirks?
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Post #236,506
11/29/05 11:39:05 PM
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ROFLMAO!
Although some believe I do have an "evil twin" ;-)
Peace - Peace Amy - Amy
"It's never too late to be who you might have been." ~ George Eliot
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Post #236,513
11/30/05 1:30:47 AM
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Some? Only those who know you.
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #236,362
11/28/05 10:15:49 PM
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Architect?
A real one? Buildings and such?
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Post #236,409
11/29/05 9:17:06 AM
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Yep. Still needs final certfication.
----------------------------------------- No new taxes. --George H. W. Bush
We don't torture. --George W. Bush
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Post #236,488
11/29/05 7:51:50 PM
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How far out is it?
And do you work with her closely, ie: do you see examples of people less qualified than her being promoted / given breaks, that she doesn't?
Because I have seen the opposite, up to a point. Really good looking women being given many opportunities that the average guy would not, even in the event of repeated screwups. It makes sense, from a horny guy perpective wanting them around. But eventually they Peter principle out, while having incredible expectations of how much more they "deserve". Which in turn leads to some serious bitterness and delusions of competentcy.
So I was wondering if you have 1st hand evidence of this treatment and what your judgement of it is.
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Post #236,492
11/29/05 9:57:01 PM
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Can't help you on that
All I know about her job is what she tells me. I've never visited her place of business. Neither, as far as I know, has she mine.
----------------------------------------- No new taxes. --George H. W. Bush
We don't torture. --George W. Bush
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Post #236,503
11/29/05 11:27:57 PM
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Hmmmm
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