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Based on his description of her combined with his limited recent fun, that's just plain stupid.

Unless he's the fragile heart type.

Well, Silv, can you accept that she might be fun for a couple of weeks and then you will lose her?

Think about it.

You've gone on a couple of dates, are you possessive and smothering already?

Well, then she's probably testing to see if you are about to lock her in a box.

Drook: If you really say bye-bye on the 1st hint of behaviour to draw out a reaction, you'd be living alone in a cave. You simply haven't been observant enough, and took things on face values, while the people around you manipulated you with ease.
New Remember, he knows ex-strippers. He's not imagining things.
Some people don't change.

I had a friend who had a gorgeous, fun, intelligent girlfriend. He met her at a party. She was one of those girls who grabs your attention and won't let go. She was dating someone at the time, but was flirting with him and he eventually won her over.

They dated for a couple of years, I think, and they got engaged. They were a great couple, but she continued to have an overly flirty personality. Everyone lit up when she was around, but she always made me nervous because she was too friendly and too flirty and too direct in her glances.

They eventually broke up. You see, she couldn't restrict herself to a monogamous relationship.

All the signs were there from the beginning, and he had many good times with her, but their relationship was doomed because their expectations didn't match. She wasn't willing to give up having sex with other people and he wasn't willing to share her even though he loved her dearly.

He was devastated.


I think Silverlock sees what's coming and sees that it'll end in tears. I don't think that his view is off-base. I don't think I could enjoy a couple of weeks of "fun" with someone like that either. I don't think it's a "fragile heart" situation either - it's learning from previous experience. It's like [link|http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0060539097/102-9949840-2206504?v=glance&n=283155&v=glance|watching a train wreck in slow motion]. :-(

My $0.02.

Cheers,
Scott.
New Re: Remember, he knows ex-strippers.
Book's a good illustration of just how up-for-grabs has become the 'mating' game, in the post-literate culture(s). (But... we are Always 'imagining things'; that won't ever go away - unless you convert to Repo-ism, that is.)

Not only are the myths up for grabs, but the gap 'twixt social conditioning; the forced acceleration of folkways, mores to try to match the explosion of technos like cel-fones + 24/7 with a i-Whatever plugged into one's anatomy: guarantees befuddlement for all but the Prime manipulators amongst us.
Our current Leadership reflects Our Culture - what do we think That means?

(All of which are my reasons for attempting never to give 1:1 'advice' on what-you-Should-do, on This Topic, even to those of long acquaintance.. maybe especially those?)

A failure of our System (beyond the horrifying Albatross of our Puritan roots, of course) is that we never really Explain.. to little boys the Fact (from all my experience, anyway) that little girls start out with the jelloware for social interactions (whether limned by "left/right brain" or otherwise) -- vastly better organized, from scratch.

And from ~ age 9 up, the gap appears only to widen, with all that preliminary experimentation. Toss in such ideas as monogamy, the necessity of a social fa\ufffdade, especially! in a society whose God is $$ and Marketing/lying to Get More of those:

What did we Expect?

So.. luck to all, getting through the premeditated amidst the utterly unconscious role-playing because, Guess What: there are NO infallible er algorithms for Liff choices :-)

(As everyone from Ovid to the Bard have been tryin ta Tell us..)



Gentlemen, Start Your Injuns



(insert Lying Blackfoot or .?. Truthful Whitefoot Sufiesque story)
Rent Charade, to hear Cary Grant tell it to Audrey, in words from a less frantic era. ;-)
     Taking the plunge - (Silverlock) - (73)
         May it go well, Don! -NT - (a6l6e6x)
         It's the boots - (Steve Lowe)
         Ahh, relax - (broomberg) - (4)
             I knew there was something I forgot about. - (Silverlock) - (3)
                 ICLRPD (new thread) - (ben_tilly)
                 ROFL - (imric) - (1)
                     ObLink - (broomberg)
         :-) Excellent. Relax and have a great time. -NT - (Another Scott)
         Ah.. anticipation - (Ashton) - (1)
             except those used in the creation of latex -NT - (Steve Lowe)
         dive in :-) -NT - (boxley)
         Why? - (Andrew Grygus)
         Good luck, Silverlock! -NT - (Nightowl)
         hey, no kissing & telling... - (cforde)
         I know exactly how you feel - (bionerd)
         I just watched "Hitch" - (imqwerky)
         Plunge right in... OK - Prepare, *then* plunge right in! -NT - (CRConrad)
         So how did your hot night go? I want the dirt. -NT - (bionerd) - (55)
             It was fun - (Silverlock) - (54)
                 ICLPRD (new thread) - (ben_tilly)
                 Go D-on, Go D-on, you're the m-an, you're the m-an! - (bionerd) - (2)
                     You will steal their hearts, Bio - (imqwerky) - (1)
                         The report you requested: (new thread) - (bionerd)
                 Woooo Hooooo! - (imqwerky)
                 This thread is worthless without PICS! - (inthane-chan) - (46)
                     I'll ask if she has any of her portfolio in digital. - (Silverlock) - (45)
                         What do you look like? - (imqwerky) - (4)
                             I've a belly that knows how to receive beer. 40+ Lb over - (Silverlock) - (3)
                                 You sound cuddly to me (purrrrr) -NT - (imqwerky) - (1)
                                     Cuddly? I guess I could do worse. -NT - (Silverlock)
                                 you are shrinking, I lost 2 inches in past 3 years or so. - (boxley)
                         Sounds to me like you loooooooove her. ;-D - (bionerd) - (39)
                             I'm backing away from her. - (Silverlock) - (38)
                                 Sorry. :-( -NT - (Another Scott)
                                 :-( but like you said the grief aint worth it -NT - (boxley)
                                 You don't have to back away - (imqwerky) - (4)
                                     If you're right, and I wouldn't be surprised ... - (drewk) - (3)
                                         Oh please - (broomberg) - (2)
                                             Remember, he knows ex-strippers. He's not imagining things. - (Another Scott) - (1)
                                                 Re: Remember, he knows ex-strippers. - (Ashton)
                                 Hell no! - (broomberg) - (1)
                                     might go into management :-) -NT - (boxley)
                                 So, I think it's safe to say there are two POVs on this one - (jake123) - (1)
                                     ICLRPD (new thread) - (ben_tilly)
                                 Don't, just yet - first, try to find out if she's angling... - (CRConrad) - (1)
                                     Don't forget to tune the state specific lap-dances. - (broomberg)
                                 Oh, I'm sorry. - (bionerd) - (19)
                                     Can't. Married. - (broomberg) - (18)
                                         Nah, you just want to nail a stripper. -NT - (bionerd) - (17)
                                             Been there, done that. - (broomberg)
                                             Who the Heck are you to call Barry a liar?!? (new thread) - (CRConrad)
                                             /me raises hand - (imqwerky) - (14)
                                                 I'm not going to lose a friend over this. - (Silverlock) - (13)
                                                     Huh? - (jbrabeck) - (1)
                                                         She might get lost in the crowd - (ben_tilly)
                                                     /me bows humbly and exits stage left - (imqwerky) - (5)
                                                         Naw, You didn't take over for Ann & abby, cuz... - (jb4) - (4)
                                                             Would that make them quarks? - (drewk) - (3)
                                                                 Squirks? -NT - (Ashton) - (2)
                                                                     ROFLMAO! - (imqwerky) - (1)
                                                                         Some? Only those who know you. -NT - (ben_tilly)
                                                     Architect? - (broomberg) - (4)
                                                         Yep. Still needs final certfication. -NT - (Silverlock) - (3)
                                                             How far out is it? - (broomberg) - (2)
                                                                 Can't help you on that - (Silverlock) - (1)
                                                                     Hmmmm -NT - (broomberg)
                                 One possibility that nobody's mentioned... - (ben_tilly) - (3)
                                     good point.. give her a dollar and see where she puts it -NT - (boxley) - (2)
                                         Sprite through the nose! -NT - (mmoffitt) - (1)
                                             Nah, she wouldn't put it there. - (pwhysall)
                                 :-(( -NT - (jb4)
                 OTOH - no pix, duude.. - (Ashton) - (1)
                     And having is never the pleasure of wanting. -NT - (mmoffitt)

That's some other guy with too much face above his eyes.
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