This too shall pass

Post #17,611 by tuberculosis 11/9/01 6:53:29 PM Reply	This too shall pass I'm seeing bits of encouragement in the job market in various corners. I look for things to thaw a bit early next year. I gotta echo CRC's suggestion on abortion if its at all doable. Your daughter has enough to deal with and as a new-ish reluctant parent myself, in no way does adding a child to your life improve your mental stability.
Post #17,662 by mhuber 11/10/01 1:52:32 AM Reply	Too late She's too far along. I wish we had known sooner. The outcome might have been the same, but with more informed thought. We reminded her of the adoption option. She does not seem to emotionaly connect the baby with how it got there. She's seen the ultrasound pictures, picked out names. She wants the kid. And she knows how hard it is to raise one. The idea scares her - which is good - but she wants to go for it anyway. I'm doing better. She's in until Monday at least. This is the first day I've missed visiting hours (I was head cashier at a craft fair - helping a friend and making a few bucks) but she had Auntie Jo (a dear family friend who has claimed the honerary "Auntie" title) over instead. Probably better that she get love from a wider circle anyway. There are lots of good people who love her. She knows that in her head, but that's not enough. Many thanks to all of you for your support, prayers, and thoughts. I'll get through this, but I'm terrified that she might end it all for herself. ---- "You don't have to be right - just use bolded upper case" - annon.
Post #17,695 by CRConrad 11/10/01 6:36:03 PM Reply	Tell her about Ben K, perhaps? About how a decision like that affects not only oneself, I mean, but can leave a whole lot of other folks sadder. You've got the material on here to show her how his "end[ing] it all for h[im]self" affected many of us... If she gets to honestly evaluate how many people -- friends and family --would feel the same way about her, then that would, seen from the opposite viewpoint, also show she's got a lot to live for, no? No didactic absolutes here, of course, just a suggestion... But I can't help thinking it makes sense. Unless, of course, you see reason to fear that even mentioning it would bring up a possibility she hadn't actually considered before. Tricky, that... Man, how I wish I could be more help! Christian R. Conrad The Man Who Only Knows Fucking Everything In His Fucking .Sig
Post #17,720 by mhuber 11/10/01 10:08:16 PM Reply	Already did, in happier times And it may well have been part of why she's in a hospital instead of a cemetary. I feel pretty good about that - I'd be afraid to bring it up at a time like this, but because we talk about what is on our minds, she already knew the story. ---- "You don't have to be right - just use bolded upper case" - annon.

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