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Post #162,396 by drewk 6/30/04 11:48:36 PM Reply	Sincere question Do you believe that a marriage must be based on the sort of feeling you had/have for your wife? I don't believe I love my wife any less for having dated her for a while before I realized I wanted to marry her. I suspect there are more people who came to be married the way I did than like you did. I'm also absolutely convinced that there are far more people who think they've found "the one" after only one date and turn out to be wrong than there are like you who were right. === Implicitly condoning stupidity since 2001.
Post #162,397 by mmoffitt 6/30/04 11:58:41 PM Reply	Must? No. It had to be that way in my case because I'd decided to never marry before I went on that first date with my wife. Had I not felt that way, I would most likely never have married. I don't believe you love your wife any more or any less than I do. I can't know that, nor is it any of my business. If I try to articulate what I think about marriage it would be that I could not imagine, personally, getting married to anyone whom I did not feel about the way I feel about my wife. And that really did happen to me only once. That doesn't mean a damned thing for anyone else. Interestingly, my wife doesn't understand this aspect of our relationship at all. She claims she still can't believe how certain I was so quickly. But, hey, it'll be 21 years in September, so I guess my "method" worked - for us. ;-) It may well be the case that no one came to decide whom to marry the way I did. I don't know - guys usually don't talk about this stuff ;0) bcnu, Mikem If you can read this, you are not the President.
Post #162,398 by drewk 7/1/04 12:02:14 AM Reply	Heh, must've seen too much Lifetime with my wife === Implicitly condoning stupidity since 2001.
Post #162,400 by mmoffitt 7/1/04 12:06:01 AM Reply	She makes you watch that too? Thought it was only me ;0) bcnu, Mikem If you can read this, you are not the President.

Not the typical teacher / kid couple - (broomberg) - (75) - June 29, 2004, 10:48:28 PM EDT

Ugh, toxic -NT - (deSitter) - June 29, 2004, 10:57:46 PM EDT

little shyte was braggin to whoever would listen - (boxley) - (1) - June 29, 2004, 10:58:25 PM EDT

Yup. Further reading shows I was right -NT - (broomberg) - June 29, 2004, 11:09:56 PM EDT

Best quote - (drewk) - June 29, 2004, 11:05:52 PM EDT

Darn it! - (lister) - (61) - June 29, 2004, 11:40:07 PM EDT

Re: Darn it! - (deSitter) - (60) - June 29, 2004, 11:47:00 PM EDT

Are you insane? - (broomberg) - (1) - June 29, 2004, 11:59:41 PM EDT

Ditto. -NT - (inthane-chan) - June 30, 2004, 12:04:38 AM EDT

How can you say something so stupid? - (drewk) - June 30, 2004, 12:03:43 AM EDT

Ditto Ditto - (lister) - (56) - June 30, 2004, 01:04:54 AM EDT

Invert the sexes -NT - (deSitter) - (55) - June 30, 2004, 05:08:36 AM EDT

Don't have to - (broomberg) - (3) - June 30, 2004, 06:42:04 AM EDT

Re: Don't have to - (deSitter) - (1) - June 30, 2004, 06:39:24 AM EDT

Reread my change - (broomberg) - June 30, 2004, 06:43:11 AM EDT

Yes -NT - (deSitter) - June 30, 2004, 06:45:04 AM EDT

Yep, double standard - (lister) - (46) - June 30, 2004, 10:47:08 AM EDT

Slight correction. - (inthane-chan) - (42) - June 30, 2004, 10:57:56 AM EDT

I'm in that group. - (mmoffitt) - (41) - June 30, 2004, 02:43:21 PM EDT

You knoiw? I think you're actually good for me... - (hnick) - (39) - June 30, 2004, 03:07:10 PM EDT

ICLRPD (new thread) - (pwhysall) - June 30, 2004, 03:10:33 PM EDT

By request: - (admin) - June 30, 2004, 03:27:12 PM EDT

This I deem an unfair reading of the simile - (Ashton) - (35) - June 30, 2004, 04:44:02 PM EDT

As always ... You Get It. And hnick et. al. don't. - (mmoffitt) - June 30, 2004, 04:55:15 PM EDT

And I disagree - (ben_tilly) - (26) - June 30, 2004, 05:32:57 PM EDT

Re: And I disagree - (Ashton) - (14) - June 30, 2004, 05:50:43 PM EDT

You should not drop marriage from the statement - (ben_tilly) - (13) - June 30, 2004, 06:07:49 PM EDT

Are we going to argue the meaning of "likely"? - (mmoffitt) - (12) - June 30, 2004, 06:10:30 PM EDT

Read my response to you below - (ben_tilly) - (11) - June 30, 2004, 06:48:44 PM EDT

Haven't read below, but I think I see the nub. - (mmoffitt) - (10) - June 30, 2004, 11:07:03 PM EDT

There is the reality, there is *also* the myth - (drewk) - (9) - June 30, 2004, 11:18:25 PM EDT

And the "myth" I actually experienced. - (mmoffitt) - (6) - June 30, 2004, 11:38:30 PM EDT

Sincere question - (drewk) - (3) - June 30, 2004, 11:48:36 PM EDT

Must? - (mmoffitt) - (2) - June 30, 2004, 11:58:41 PM EDT

Heh, must've seen too much Lifetime with my wife -NT - (drewk) - (1) - July 1, 2004, 12:02:14 AM EDT

She makes you watch that too? Thought it was only me ;0) -NT - (mmoffitt) - July 1, 2004, 12:06:01 AM EDT

There's more to your experience than that - (ben_tilly) - (1) - July 1, 2004, 12:38:44 AM EDT

Of course not. - (mmoffitt) - July 1, 2004, 12:44:41 AM EDT

Exactly -NT - (ben_tilly) - July 1, 2004, 12:35:44 AM EDT

Re: There is the reality, there is *also* the myth - (Nightowl) - July 4, 2004, 03:12:28 PM EDT

And so, what? - (mmoffitt) - (10) - June 30, 2004, 06:02:31 PM EDT

Nice ad hominems - (ben_tilly) - (9) - June 30, 2004, 06:47:02 PM EDT

FWIW I agree with your statement of The Problem - (Ashton) - June 30, 2004, 07:32:03 PM EDT

I guess I'm just thick. - (mmoffitt) - (7) - June 30, 2004, 11:48:58 PM EDT

I finally figured out the disconnect - (drewk) - (5) - June 30, 2004, 11:42:21 PM EDT

Yes. - (mmoffitt) - (3) - June 30, 2004, 11:47:31 PM EDT

No argument there - (broomberg) - July 1, 2004, 12:22:05 AM EDT

You've said nothing indicating that - (ben_tilly) - (1) - July 1, 2004, 12:49:10 AM EDT

Well, that certainly wasn't my intent. - (mmoffitt) - July 1, 2004, 12:53:07 AM EDT

Exactly, that's the tightrope that I have in mind - (ben_tilly) - July 1, 2004, 12:53:14 AM EDT

Loving lovely Love - (Ashton) - July 1, 2004, 05:02:44 AM EDT

Still disagree - (hnick) - (6) - June 30, 2004, 05:52:14 PM EDT

I am so glad my daughter has greater perspective than you. -NT - (mmoffitt) - June 30, 2004, 06:03:37 PM EDT

Your POV understood - (Ashton) - June 30, 2004, 06:07:05 PM EDT

The phrase "wife-whore dichotomy"... - (ben_tilly) - (2) - June 30, 2004, 06:57:20 PM EDT

I "grew upwards" - (Ashton) - (1) - June 30, 2004, 07:47:58 PM EDT

Point - (ben_tilly) - June 30, 2004, 09:09:52 PM EDT

Care to enlighten me? - (mmoffitt) - July 1, 2004, 12:04:57 AM EDT

Thanks for the sympathy. - (mmoffitt) - June 30, 2004, 04:56:58 PM EDT

Throwing kindling onto the fire then running away fast - (lincoln) - July 4, 2004, 07:23:45 PM EDT

No - (deSitter) - (2) - June 30, 2004, 12:42:10 PM EDT

Sure - - (Ashton) - (1) - June 30, 2004, 04:55:26 PM EDT

Re: Sure - - (deSitter) - June 30, 2004, 07:18:56 PM EDT

Equate the sexes - (ChrisR) - (3) - June 30, 2004, 01:09:21 PM EDT

You're damn right he would be - (deSitter) - (2) - June 30, 2004, 01:15:06 PM EDT

Horniness - (Ashton) - (1) - June 30, 2004, 05:34:01 PM EDT

Ah, "Tea and Sympathy". -NT - (a6l6e6x) - June 30, 2004, 09:01:04 PM EDT

So, size doesn't matter after all I guess. -NT - (mmoffitt) - June 29, 2004, 11:40:51 PM EDT

Simple Puritanism; our Muslim roots + hypocrisy. Victim!? -NT - (Ashton) - June 30, 2004, 01:57:53 AM EDT

Ahh, a successful thread - (broomberg) - (6) - June 30, 2004, 09:14:39 PM EDT

Gracias -NT - (ben_tilly) - June 30, 2004, 09:19:37 PM EDT

Who told you? - (drewk) - (3) - June 30, 2004, 09:24:08 PM EDT

Older brothers - (broomberg) - (2) - June 30, 2004, 09:34:32 PM EDT

TLA on South Street? - (drewk) - (1) - June 30, 2004, 10:47:01 PM EDT

Yup - (broomberg) - June 30, 2004, 10:57:11 PM EDT

Re: Ahh, a successful thread - (deSitter) - June 30, 2004, 09:26:38 PM EDT

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