Believe what you want
But I've never correctly read hints or clues all my life, so I rely on direct information, no matter how bad it is. It's called constructive criticism, but it's beneficial.
I don't feel martyred at all, I'm not upset, I'm not distressed, I'm happy to be gathering straight and honest feedback.
Thanks Andrew.
Nightowl >8#
"It is understanding that gives us an ability to have peace. When we understand the other fellow's viewpoint, and he understands ours, then we can sit down and work out our differences." Harry S. Truman
"Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude." Timothy Bentley