The one thing in human interaction you can't hide or fake or subvert is compassion. You have none - everything comes through your self-locked lens. That is what drives me up the wall. To you, compassion is an act. In truth, compassion is a reaction - a genuine love of others expressed through feeling their pain and joy, not acting compassionate.
The fake compassion you peddle is something our society has created to make it possible for us to be self-serving hedonists without guilt. It is destructive in the extreme. A society without real, unforced compassion is as good as dead.