I'm married to one, so I really do know where they go. Places you don't frequent, probably.
Like 4-5, 6-7, 8-9 year old soccer games my kids play. Ballet, tap, and piano lessons for the girls. Soccer, football, and computer lessons for the boys. You find a few at the gym, looking in envy at those pasty 20 year old girls with clothes 3-4 sizes smaller. Between work, home, and the kids, there's just no time for recreation. My wife is a martyr, because she also is trying to go to school (in addition to work, home and kids). Feeling guilty, because she can't seem to win big at any of these.
By 55, the kids are grown, the career and body are pretty much lost causes, and the women pretty much realize (with everyone else) that they're not going to be rich anytime soon, so they start enjoying life again, because there's just not enough of it left. So Oktoberfest becomes a treat again...
Somehow, we men don't seem to figure all this out until we're at least 65.
Glen Austin