On the otherhand, some of you may remember meeting a guy at my wedding, initials MH.

I have old stories about playing with his head, focused on sexuality. He sounds and acts gay.

It is pretty simple.

We are KEYED to pick up on sexual characteristics and mannerisms. It's core to our ability to go find a mate and produce offspring, pretty much what MOST of us are biologically programmed to do.

M is married and very unhappy at the thought of his sexuality coming into question.

So that's the fun of it.

Hey, I hung out at the PA ballet for a long time. I spent years at the RHPS. My X-BIL is VERY gay (and I got along with him much better than I did with my wife, and that was even in the early (good?) years of my marriage). I'm ok with pretty much all the spectrum of sexuality as long as it is consensual, but importantly, I know my opinion simply doesn't matter to anyone living that difficult life, nor should it.