Your point doesn't make much sense.
To me, anyway. And you seem to be changing the topic.
My point is the core stereotypical assumption that race is a characteristic that denotes a difference and that using that basis to direct general hatred is racist behavior. It has nothing to do with having power and everything to do with individual/group behavior.
If a guy in the deep south is working for a black man and calls him the N word, by your definition that is NOT racist. (he doesn't have the power in that relationship). By my definition, it is.
That isn't what I thought you were saying. (Your second paragraph certainly doesn't argue against the point I was trying to make.) I thought you were criticizing some members of some groups being called on using the N word while others weren't.
I'll try again to make myself clear before bowing out.
As TNC said above, racism is all about power of one group over another. Power that can hold down a minority (as in the antebellum South) or a majority (as in pre-Mandela South Africa). It's not about
personal power. A 100 pound 12 year old girl calling a 250 pound black man the N word in Atlanta in 1960 would certainly be engaged in racist behavior even though she would have no physical power over him. Her society certainly had power over him, though, so he would have felt the sting... When derogatory terms from that time, that were used when people were murdered by mobs, are resurrected as an insult, all of that history is dragged up again with that word.
It's not about individual power, or lack thereof.
There are cases that one could cite about the use of the N word by a white person that is arguably not racist. E.g. the Elvis Costello song "Oliver's Army".
One could also look to the past and see the word used in what might be considered a non-racist way - e.g. someone who knows of no other term for a black person. Or, to illustrate a deeper point, as say, Jim in Tom Sawyer.
Dr. Laura and Michael Richards weren't cases like those.
You seem to argue that one should ignore the history of the word, when that history is the elephant in the room when it's trotted out. Or just say it's too complicated so nobody should use it any more. I maintain it's not complicated - context matters.
Another take on this topic is by Randall Kennedy, who wrote a book on it. An interview with him is here -
http://www.theatlant...int2002-01-17.htm (scroll down). He's got a complicated view of the word, and arguing for consideration of context, but I'm not sure I agree with him in all aspects...
Now maybe I'm misreading you and we're actually in agreement. Wouldn't be the first time; you can have the last word.
FWIW.
Cheers,
Scott.