Post #314,889
10/1/09 2:57:13 AM
10/1/09 2:58:01 AM
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Well, it's quiet here
I just dropped off my son at his mother-in-law's house. I had taken him to visit my parents about 3 hours away. He's home for a couple of weeks from his post in Germany. He's going back Saturday, and his schedule is full for the rest of the trip. I probably won't see him again this visit.
My wife found a new place. Mobile home. She was planning on moving out tomorrow, but I see the pillows are missing from the bed. The alarm clock is gone as well, and the TV. The mattresses are gone from the kids' beds too.
I am alone.
A new chapter begins. The kids will be back part of the time.
Oh, yeah - October 1. Our wedding anniversary. 26th.
Edited by mhuber
Oct. 1, 2009, 02:58:01 AM EDT
Well, it's quiet here
I just dropped off my son at his mother-in-law's house. I had taken him to visit my parents about 3 hours away. He's home for a couple of weeks from his post in Germany. He's going back Saturday, and his schedule is full for the rest of the trip. I probably won't see him again this visit.
My wife found a new place. Mobile home. She was planning on moving out tomorrow, but I see the pillows are missing from the bed. The alarm clock is gone as well, and the TV. The mattresses are gone from the kids' beds too.
I am alone.
A new chapter begins. The kids will be back part of the time.
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Post #314,890
10/1/09 3:36:29 AM
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Re: Well, it's quiet here
I've been there (minus grown child, or any other child for that matter) in the home suddenly quit by the spouse. Desolate feeling. We had 18 years of history at that point, just ten years of matrimony. But 26 years plus history...geez. I'm sorry, man.
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Post #314,896
10/1/09 6:37:56 AM
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Hang in there. One day at a time....
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Post #314,898
10/1/09 8:32:52 AM
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You can do it.
We're all here to help.
-Mike
"They that can give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety."
- Benjamin Franklin, 1759 Historical Review of Pennsylvania
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Post #314,900
10/1/09 9:05:40 AM
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:-(
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Post #314,910
10/1/09 10:31:09 AM
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I'm sorry to hear that Mike
Been there, except that I was the one that moved out. No fun, no fun at all...
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Post #314,915
10/1/09 11:25:59 AM
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Bummer
I will choose a path that's clear. I will choose freewill.
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Post #315,012
10/3/09 5:23:31 PM
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Re: Well, it's quiet here
Reduced IWE time of late, so just noticed.
There are no wise words on this topic, of course. Despite all the psych tomes with words, none of us is geared-up for genuine Loss.
We're all screwed by that t i m e interval . . . . thing too, before a few upsides ever appear:
I calls that pretty Bad Intelligent Design :-(
A.
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Post #315,040
10/5/09 1:38:16 AM
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Intelligent Design
You may recall that I am a person who prays. In the depths earlier this year, I accused God of design.
I am already enjoying upsides to this situation. The first day, I enjoyed stuffed cabbage, which I really like and which (because she grew up at the edge of a cabbage field with a sauerkraut cannery within easy smelling distance) she can't stand. And I made plans to visit relatives she can't stand just because I like them. I have stocked the pantry with ramen, which she never would allow. Remodeling will commence shortly, much of it in bad taste and in silly colors that I like. There will be bean bags in the living room. It feels wrong to enjoy these things, but there it is, you have to accept the good with the bad.
And there is plenty of bad. Which I won't describe right now because I'm thinking positive.
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Post #315,042
10/5/09 7:10:18 AM
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ah, looking forward to the day I can cook lamb with impunity
not really but am sympathizing
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Post #315,044
10/5/09 8:28:15 AM
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Kudos to the uptick.
I noticed that when I have a proper space of my own to decorate it tends towards 70s kitsch. :-) My ex-wife did not approve. My mother did not understand. My sister did.
Wade.
Q:Is it proper to eat cheeseburgers with your fingers?
A:No, the fingers should be eaten separately.
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Post #315,045
10/5/09 8:39:04 AM
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I bought my own furniture
for the 1st time in my life last year.
25 years of the wife choosing. Never again.
An old friend was visiting a couple of days ago. His wife was iffy about me. I popped up after no contact after 27 years. Seems he didn't talk much about our time together. And now this crazy person shows up out of the blue to throw theirs lives in a timult.
So I needed to meet her, smooze her, and then invite them to my place to meet my true love.
They complimented her on the furniture, the general design, the carpets, etc.
She demurred, oh no, he picked it all out.
Hehe.
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Post #315,046
10/5/09 8:57:01 AM
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I always do furniture shopping on sunday
because the garbage man comes around on monday :-)
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