even been in a few churches every now and again and was married inside one. Not to get into a discussion over whether the entity you worship is the same entity that I believe in because that would be pointless. I dont know if you still occationally go out to a bar but the anology is apt.
you have regulars and occationals
people go to both bars and churches where they feel comfortable
the pastor leads a flock in a bar the head bartender serves that function. If the bartender is a nasty fuck pretty soon people will go elsewhere. If the pastor is the same the church leaders or the bar owners will have them replaced.
the above does not describe the worship of an entity at all, doesnt claim to touch on it, just adresses the human nature that Brenda was having trouble with. Human nature is not what you go to church for is it?
thanx,
bill