I was commenting more on the blindness of youth and my inability/stupidity/stubborness to see where the relationship with my ex would take me in 20 years. It's a pity we arent blessed with insight in our youth, nor have we had enough life experiences to develop any hindsight . Truth is, I attracted, pursued and dated some great men. I was seeing a very nice, educated, boyishly cocky guy while I was dating my ex. I chose the wrong guy. There's that hindsight thing again.
I'm not confident in my current ability to choose wisely. Once bitten, twice shy, as they say.
See, then you've already done what you need to do to make better choices. That's all it takes. And yes, hindsight teaches some really hard lessons.
Good luck with both the job search and the soulmate search. :)
Brenda