1. Show up
2. Say "I Do" when you're supposed to
3. Smile for the photographer.
Everything else is irrelevant because it's HER day and you are nothing more than a prop.
That makes me so glad I had John participate a great deal in our wedding. He sang to me on stage, read his own written vows, and we did choreographed dances at the reception for the crowd to the Dirty Dancing songs "Do Ya Love Me" and "I've Had the Time of My Life". We even choreographed the garter ceremony to "She's Got Legs"
It was OUR day, not my day. :)
Brenda