Post #202,775
4/11/05 12:11:37 AM
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Celebrated our 6th Wedding Anniversary today :)
John took me to dinner over in Grafton at the Piasa Cafe, and we had a really nice time. :) We also went shopping a little in Alton, too.
It was nice to get away from the house where I'm again dealing with fleas being brought in from the yard outside....anxiously awaiting my power spray which was supposed to be last Wednesday, but it rained, and now is scheduled for tomorrow, but it's gonna rain... Lord give me patience... I want my yard sprayed, so make it stop raining, ok?
Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #202,792
4/11/05 1:38:08 AM
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Congratulations! (You sure must be a most compatible couple)
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Post #203,028
4/12/05 1:15:27 PM
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Re: Congratulations!
Conrad wrote:>>(You sure must be a most compatible couple)<<
Thanks Conrad, we sure do seem to be. :)
Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #202,923
4/11/05 9:28:34 PM
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Make it through 9 -
and you'll be over a certain hump in the 'ol probability curve!
Congrats,
moi
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Post #203,015
4/12/05 11:46:53 AM
4/12/05 11:49:28 AM
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Which curve is that?
I made it to 17. I guess even in stats, I am slightly abberant.
And congrats, Brenda. :-)
Edited by bionerd
April 12, 2005, 11:49:28 AM EDT
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Post #203,030
4/12/05 1:18:36 PM
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Thanks, Bionerd!
And I'm sorry yours didn't work out like you hoped. Wishing you luck on finding the right one!
Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #203,078
4/12/05 6:08:46 PM
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Past 17
This summer will be 18.
We would do great if we could just get someone to watch the kids once in a while. Unlike Box, my oldest is just 9, and behind him an 8 year old, and the baby is 4.
I think Box has them from almost college age all the way down to early school?
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Post #203,090
4/12/05 7:17:28 PM
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And here I thought that 15 was pretty good...
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #203,129
4/13/05 1:08:57 AM
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Nothing highly researched..
Just hearsay from someone who had counselled lots of pairs - and from >10 years ago.
There seemed to be something (anti-?) magical about 9. But then, even were there good stats behind that report, I can't see that they are of any bloody Use at all, in dealing with one's own life or that of any other - -
IOW, a bit like those Econ 'numbers'; revered, imagined to reveal 'True Facts', extrapolated - creating Greenspans et al (and never related to the Quality produced en mass by adoption of their formulae).
Ashton
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Post #203,140
4/13/05 3:23:13 AM
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Hmm... Isn't there a concept of a "seven-year itch"?
That is, an "established wisdom" among sociologists etc, that after seven years you've become so familiar with your partner that the grass starts looking greener outside the fence. (cf the saying, "familiarity breeds contempt".)
If a lot of people were being decent about this -- i.e, trying to resist the urge -- or just slow to react, or succeeded in keeping their affairs secret for a while...
In short, if there is a "seven-year itch", but there also are all kinds of reasons for a delay between its onset and its effects, then there could well be a bump in the curve over relationship-breakup frequencies at about nine years.
Just my speculation, of course; more or less a WAG.
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Post #203,161
4/13/05 7:49:39 AM
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Yeah, but it's hard to generalize.
Many men seem to like variety and get restless. But it's hard to generalize about when and how people break up. E.g. Act 3 of [link|http://www.thislife.org/pages/descriptions/04/261.html|This American Life] on NPR from 3/26/2004: Act Three. I Want to be a Statistic. Starlee Kine gets answers about her parents marriage from her dad ... after a lifetime of mystery. She and her sister had wanted her parents to divorce since they were little. (16 minutes) [link|http://www.thislife.org/ra/261.ram|Real Audio]. It's a funny story that probably cuts too close to home for many. :-) Cheers, Scott.
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Post #203,169
4/13/05 9:43:07 AM
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Per some anthropologists
Humans are not a monogamous species. It's hard wired in our brains to go out and mate with as many people as possible. It is theorized that 7 years is about all we can take before the hard wiring instinct kicks in and we go in search of greener pastures. In other words, it's our id that cant handle the monogamy and our superego that keeps us from straying (providing one has a well developed superego). Always a battle going on inside the brain.
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Post #203,029
4/12/05 1:17:40 PM
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Re: Make it through 9 -
That shouldn't be too hard, Ashton. :) We've already been together 9 years, we have been together since he first asked me to go steady on April 2nd, 1996. We've lived together since late 1996/early 1997, and we just didn't get married until 1999. :)
Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #202,998
4/12/05 9:57:41 AM
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Congrats!
I raise a virtual glass of virtual bubly in your honor!
jb4
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Post #203,003
4/12/05 10:16:19 AM
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Congratulations
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Post #203,019
4/12/05 12:35:26 PM
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Congrats. Our 6th will be in December :)
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Steve
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Post #203,031
4/12/05 1:21:26 PM
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Thanks everyone!
I just keep telling myself that marriage is something you have to work at, you can't simply take it for grante. So it's important to tell your spouse often that you love them, and to think of them and their needs as well as your own. :)
I didn't get my power spray Monday, it rained, so now it's scheduled for tomorrow.
I hate fleas. Why can't they go find a house with a dog or cat? Grrr.
Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #203,095
4/12/05 10:26:33 PM
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it only seems like 12 yrs :-) good luck
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Post #203,101
4/12/05 10:54:16 PM
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My wedding is in 3 days time.
3 days! Shells... I've been so busy the last few days that I lost track! Okay, I'm getting nervous, now...
Wade.
Is it enough to love
Is it enough to breathe
Somebody rip my heart out
And leave me here to bleed
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Is it enough to die
Somebody save my life
I'd rather be Anything but Ordinary
Please
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Post #203,103
4/12/05 10:57:12 PM
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we want pics!! (only the public ones mind)
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Post #203,107
4/12/05 11:26:59 PM
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There will be pics. I guarantee that.
Is it enough to love
Is it enough to breathe
Somebody rip my heart out
And leave me here to bleed
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Is it enough to die
Somebody save my life
I'd rather be Anything but Ordinary
Please
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Post #203,109
4/12/05 11:28:36 PM
4/13/05 12:11:26 AM
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Nervous about the ceremony, right?
People couldn't believe my wife and I weren't nervous. Sure, we were worried about the ceremony coming off okay, and the cake showing up at the reception. But the actual marriage part we weren't nervous about at all. We knew it's what we wanted to do.
[edit typo in subj]
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Edited by drewk
April 13, 2005, 12:11:26 AM EDT
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Post #203,111
4/12/05 11:30:55 PM
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Nervous about the day as a whole, I guess.
Is it enough to love
Is it enough to breathe
Somebody rip my heart out
And leave me here to bleed
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Is it enough to die
Somebody save my life
I'd rather be Anything but Ordinary
Please
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Post #203,125
4/13/05 12:22:14 AM
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Just remember...
She has as little experience with this as you do. You'll both be pleasantly surprised.
Cheers,
Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #203,162
4/13/05 7:50:53 AM
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Treat each other well and you'll do fine. :-)
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Post #203,269
4/13/05 7:49:25 PM
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Your job is to
1. Show up
2. Say "I Do" when you're supposed to
3. Smile for the photographer.
Everything else is irrelevant because it's HER day and you are nothing more than a prop.
lincoln
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Post #203,271
4/13/05 8:10:18 PM
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A note on pictures
We set up a little room for the photographer just off the main reception room. Thought we were being so clever. We spent the entire night getting dragged in there by one relative or another who wanted a picture taken with us. When we got the candids back, we kept looking through them saying, "I don't remember that."
Pose for the pictures at the church. Pose for the cake cutting and the first dance. After that, tell people if they want a picture they'll have to keep up and shoot fast.
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Post #203,289
4/13/05 9:42:44 PM
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yer mates will try to get you drunk, watch out
a quick snort in the back of the chapel at most.
thanx,
bill
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Post #203,366
4/14/05 1:52:59 PM
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Yep, been there
as perpetrator, not victim - we did shots - ours were water, his were vodka.
"Whenever you find you are on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect" --Mark Twain
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Post #203,619
4/17/05 12:24:30 AM
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Re: Your job is to
1. Show up 2. Say "I Do" when you're supposed to 3. Smile for the photographer. Everything else is irrelevant because it's HER day and you are nothing more than a prop. That makes me so glad I had John participate a great deal in our wedding. He sang to me on stage, read his own written vows, and we did choreographed dances at the reception for the crowd to the Dirty Dancing songs "Do Ya Love Me" and "I've Had the Time of My Life". We even choreographed the garter ceremony to "She's Got Legs" It was OUR day, not my day. :) Brenda
"The people of the world having once been deceived, suspect deceit in truth itself." -- Hitopadesa 600?-1100? AD, Sanskrit Fable From Panchatantr
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Post #203,624
4/17/05 1:41:46 AM
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Speaking of which...
I caught (OK, picked up) the garter at Wade(Static) & Rachael's wedding yesterday... but I'll leave it to Wade to tell you about the wedding, I won't go spoiling everything.
In short, though: Lovely day!
Two out of three people wonder where the other one is.
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Post #203,666
4/17/05 5:29:25 PM
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Glad you got to go!
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Steve
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Post #203,673
4/17/05 10:31:44 PM
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It may take a while for him to tell us...
He has *ahem* other priorities right now.
Cheers,
Ben
I have come to believe that idealism without discipline is a quick road to disaster, while discipline without idealism is pointless. -- Aaron Ward (my brother)
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Post #203,132
4/13/05 1:14:12 AM
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Re: My wedding is in 3 days time.
Hola Static
You'll need a new nic after this; static is bad for communications twixt .. now, two ;-)
Break a Leg!
Catch ya later - will be away for a time, Thursday on.
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Post #203,163
4/13/05 8:36:20 AM
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Actually, he'll probably be more static.
(as in staying in one place)
:)
~~~)-Steven----
"I want you to remember that no bastard ever won a war by dying for his country.
He won it by making the other poor dumb bastard die for his country..."
General George S. Patton
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Post #203,135
4/13/05 2:03:27 AM
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woohoo!
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Steve
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Post #203,171
4/13/05 9:46:00 AM
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Remember that in the grand scheme of things
The wedding isn't all that important. It's the marriage you gotta focus on!
Best wishes to you!!
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Post #203,183
4/13/05 10:54:04 AM
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That's the perfect day to start applying that saying
that my friend Kevin mentioned to me:
"You want to be right or you want to be married?"
Good luck!
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Post #203,362
4/14/05 1:06:04 PM
4/14/05 1:07:17 PM
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Congrats, Wade!
Don't worry, mate...I'll be worth it. My good thoughts are with you both!
[Edit: Believe it or not, I actually have more than one thought... ;-) ]
jb4
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Edited by jb4
April 14, 2005, 01:07:17 PM EDT
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Post #203,429
4/14/05 10:51:30 PM
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Congratulations, Brenda!
I'm at 44+ years with my Brenda.
Alex
The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt. -- Bertrand Russell
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Post #203,431
4/14/05 10:56:05 PM
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heck my goal in life is to match
his old fartism a goal well worth reaching
thanx,
billi
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