We don't value potential connections to most people very much.Ever flown to a convention? Was it in a decent-sized city or not? One thing I have noticed living in Cleveland is the almost complete lack of taxis. Sure you can call one, but unless you are at the airport, or at Tower City during morning or evening rush hour, you are not going to just walk out on the sidewalk and flag one down.
When organizations are looking for a location to hold their conventions, the ability of attendees to get around factors in. In Cleveland there isn't enough demand for taxis to support heavy coverage, but without the heavy coverage the convention business won't come here. Chicken, meet egg. Closed networks present a similar issue. People won't join them until there are people in them. That's why first-mover advantage is so important building new networks.
Now for why Metcalf's Law has an upper boundary: Network effects only hold up while networks are still islands of incompatibility.
When you have to choose between incompatible cell phone networks, you want the larger network. Its size is an asset. But which internet do you want to sign up for? Well, there is only one. In theory that should make it wildly valuable. The barrier to start a "new" internet is huge, because no current users would have an incentive to switch.[1] But lack of alternatives is synonymous with lack of competition.
So I think the value curve will rise geometrically in comparison to the alternatives. Once a single network has achieved the defacto merger you describe, the value of the alternatives also drops. Once the value of the alternatives drops, your multiplier is less useful.
[edit] How can you talk so much about graphs and not have any? While your "law" may model observed trends more closely than Metcalf's, both the law and the explanation of the reasoning require more mathematical knowledge than most people will probably have. As much as it might feel like "dumbing down" your presentation to the USA Today level, some pretty pictures might make it more concrete for people who can't follow the math.
[1] Technology being equal.