(Only the letter of 4a, not the spirit.)


Thanks. :)

Comforting words are a painkiller, not a remedy. Painkillers are addictive.


I agree there too, they aren't a remedy, they just help the victim cope.

Give your condolences if you must, but be sure you know when to stop. The way to comfort the afflicted is to put paid to the affliction.


Oh absolutely. If you coddle a victim too much, they'll never get past the issue, (ex: if you cater to a rape victim's feaar of going outside, they'll never do it etc.), so you do have to give condolences, but also know when to step back and let the person learn to live with their fears and pains again.

Have a good day, Marlowe! :)

Nightowl >8#