Repeat?

Post #159,356 by broomberg 6/10/04 12:32:55 PM Reply	Repeat? Will she be 18 the next time she sees you? You are going to have to accept that this relationship is changed. Either treat her as an adult who happens to be a guest at your house, or you will never have a civil time with her again. This means she comes and goes at will, and sleeps with whoever she wants. If she needs money, you can attempt to negotiate, but don't ever expect to enfore your moraility on her again.
Post #159,371 by jbrabeck 6/10/04 2:02:08 PM Reply	Enforced morality There is such a thing as "house rules" and parental respect. If she doesn't want to obey house rules (no sex in our house, let us know where she is going and when to expect her return, etc) then she can move out. She has already played that threat. I told her "go ahead". I'm used to all of the girls dis'n me. However, when they start on their own mom, that's too far. They can make those statements from their own residence, not ours.
Post #159,380 by broomberg 6/10/04 3:37:21 PM Reply	You lied You've already said that you've caught them multiple times. Yet they still live there. Which in turn means you really would like them to hide it better. Which means you would prefer to be lied to then have direct and honest conversations. We've just crossed into Ashton's Crazy Aunt Martha. Everyone knows she's there, but polite company would not discuss her.
Post #159,391 by jbrabeck 6/10/04 4:44:23 PM Reply	Not quite crazy We have had the frank open discussion about what teenage boys want and what that causes and could lead into. And I have offered birth control options. Mom lives in the fantasy world where her daughters would never do that. So the house rule is NO SEX. When boyfriend is here, doors must be open. Since my wife is handicapped and cannot easily negotiate the stairs, it's up to me to "make the rounds". I have never caught them in "the act", just teenage fumbling and groping. His hands under her clothing, her hands grabbing his crotch, things like that. Pisses the daughter off every time she "gets caught". Just trying to preserve mom's fantasy.
Post #159,395 by dmarker 6/10/04 4:57:23 PM 6/10/04 4:59:44 PM Reply	I support you on the rules ... Did same with my 3 girls only to find out the oldest had obeyed rules but once she was home & we were asleep, had climbed out her window & was off. We never knew. Only found out many years later. Seems that head-strong girls at that age can be damned head-strong. That daughter is now a mom with 5 of her own :-) one coming up to same age she was when she did her exploring. Doug M (you have double my sympathy re being step da) _________________________________________________________ "Blinding ignorance does mislead us. O! Wretched mortals, open your eyes!". -- Leonardo Da Vinci Edited by dmarker June 10, 2004, 04:59:44 PM EDT Expand All History
Post #159,404 by inthane-chan 6/10/04 5:19:21 PM Reply	Oh, boy. Susan is about as headstrong as they get. So is my mom. I hope there's some submissive genes somewhere in there that get expressed in any daughters I might have... :P Tired of lying in the sunshine staying home to watch the rain. You are young and life is long and there is time to kill today. And then one day you find ten years have got behind you. No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun.

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