Never said to 'coddle' her. Just not to make the matter worse that it already is. She *knows* she has behaved badly. Rubbing it in might have some impact on a 13-15 y.o., but this lass is 17 & quite capable of walking. Police can't force her home any more than parents can.

Again, she is facing a big lifestyle change & as tough as some 17 y.o.s think they are the fears of such a major change can cause an odd reaction. The descriptions given thus far of her 'reaction' seem classic. Does she really 'hate' her mom or pop (of course not), does she dislike her brothers/sisters enough to want to disrupt their lives, again the obvious answer is not at all. Is she doing any of this - yes. Is she being selfish - certainly looks like it. Is she still a growing young girl with a personal crisis - Yes.

Without knowing all details, self would be inclined to tell her to work out what she wants to do then come in to discuss. Minimal fuss, no codling, just some support & understanding. It means taking a risk but it is amazing how responsive kids of that age can be if they suddenly see you are willing to let them take control. Hand the problem to her & stand by to help.

Cheers Doug