For your own shared happiness and reduction of device-flinging-across-room-in-frustration incidents, don’t bother with the PDAPhone concept.
I had the misfortune to own an SPV for a year. It’s a shiny toy at first, but the novelty soon wears off as one realises that this thing is a dreadful telephone.
The XDA is even worse than the SPV as a telephone, as the telephony stuff is even more of an afterthought.
A friend of mine had the original XDA and it lasted two weeks.
Two weeks before being returned.
Battery life is dreadful, voice quality is a joke, you look like a right plank talking into the thing (think n-Gage but without the hip lifestyle points).
Nice big screen, though.
Prod her towards something like an SE P900 if she absolutely must have a phone with PDA functionality.