The answer may well differ, if one steps away from the individual and into the domain of the societal. For example, the troops that stormed the scenic beaches of France and subsequently marched through Europe underwent some rather gruesome suffering and death. Are you saying that their sacrifice was in vain? Or is the freedom we have exactly because of those individuals that sacrificed themselves in a prior era?
Ben said:
There is a reward for doing something about the circumstances that are causing you suffering.
I don't think that you two are in such contradiction as you think...