Why do you seem so convinced that your wife is a bitch?

Post #39,440 by CRConrad 5/21/02 6:47:41 PM Reply	Why do you seem so convinced that your wife is a bitch? One of O'Ryan's "alternatives": #2 Lose house and wife and son. I don't get it... Why would "Lose house" necessarily mean "Lose wife and son"? Yeah, let's say you lost your house. That would, presumably, mean she lost it too. So, if she's homeless (or, more realistically, forced to move into a small rented apartment) anyway... Why would she automatically dump you??? I can't see why she would be better off, materially, for it -- not to mention somehow "forced" to do it. Yet you seem to automatically assume it would be a necessary consequence. If you don't think she's a heartless bitch, then why would it? See how a little logic can help you out of at least one part of your depression? Yes, believe it or not, but this message is actually intended to cheer you up a little bit. Christian R. Conrad Of course, who am I to point fingers? I'm in the "Information Technology" business, prima facia evidence that there's bats in the bell tower. -- [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=27764\|Andrew Grygus]
Post #39,463 by orion 5/21/02 11:33:51 PM Reply	If I lose the house I would have to have my wife and son live in an apartment while I try to get back on my feet. My wife works, but doesn't make enough to cover me, her, and my son. So I would have to have them on their own, and I would be living with my folks until I can earn enough to get a house back or get a larger apartment. Why did you assume that she would leave me? *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,480 by CRConrad 5/22/02 7:28:47 AM Reply	But, Y the F wouldn't U live in SAME apt with wife & son ?!?
Post #39,552 by orion 5/22/02 8:04:18 PM Reply	Why wouldn't I? To keep expenses down for my wife, so that they only pay for themselves, unless I can make enough to pay for the apartment and food and utilities, etc as well as my wife. I don't want to be a burden on them, and would most likely be seperated until I can get a decent paying job. *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,612 by CRConrad 5/23/02 10:41:35 AM Reply	What you're saying is, she'd let you starve. Nice marriage.
Post #39,635 by boxley 5/23/02 12:09:55 PM Reply	nope, his pride not her problem TAM ARIS QUAM ARMIPOTENS
Post #39,887 by CRConrad 5/25/02 7:51:11 AM Reply	Yeah, but that's what HE is saying here. It's exactly Norm's stupid fucking "pride" I'm talking about. Like, does he think some tiny one-room place to stay will magically cost more just because he lives in it too? Or that it will become cheaper for his wife to rent just because he doesn't? (OK, there's many weird things about US society I learn here that I didn't know before... But surely rents for ordinary apartments are based on the size of the apartment, not the size of the family living in it?) Does he seriously think his wife would want him to starve under some bridge with the winos, rather than half-starve in some tiny apartment with her, _at practically no additional expense_ for her?!? ('Practically', because it costs pretty much the same to cook for three as for two; and because the rent would stay exactly the same.) If he thinks that, then it's HE, not I, who thinks his wife doesn't give a shit about marriage vows, the love they're supposed to be based on, and all that. Then of course, he could be right... But then, if he is so convinced his marriage is doomed anyway, why the fuck doesn't he make the logical conclusion and get his head out of his "I can only look for jobs in the St Louis area because of my wife!" ass?!? Norm: Start practicing the phrase "Do you want fries with that?". There's no shame in that; you do what you have to do to get by. But, why the fuck am I telling you this... You sounded as if you understood and accepted this back when you had a lead on a retail re-stocking or warehouse inventory, or something of that kind, job six months ago -- and then, apparently because of your stupid "pride", you didn't take that either. If you're going to continue to be so stupidly "proud", then you've got only yourself to blame. (In stead of this underhanded blaming your wife that you're actually doing here.) Christian R. Conrad Of course, who am I to point fingers? I'm in the "Information Technology" business, prima facia evidence that there's bats in the bell tower. -- [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=27764\|Andrew Grygus]
Post #39,915 by orion 5/25/02 4:51:54 PM Reply	Warehouse job I applied for it, didn't get it. I've applied for about a dozen jobs a week, and never get any of them or hardly hear back from them. Usually when I do, it is to tell me that I am not skilled enough, or am not qualified enough, or some other reason they do not want to hire me. I cannot even get those fast food jobs, but I keep on trying. Besides the food bills, there is the electric bill, other utilities, my medical bills (I pay between $300USD and $500USD for perscription medicine a month and owe the hospitals a whole shtload of money), my credit card bills (only way I can survive is charge it and pay it off later), and the gas money for my car. Rent, as you said, wouldn't be higher, but the other bills would be higher. I could always sleep on the couch if there is no room in the bed. I hate fast food jobs, I had two of them while in college. They work you too hard for minimum wage and I always get screwed out of the job after a while because of politics and favortism and because I don't smooze around with the managers. I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,960 by boxley 5/26/02 10:18:41 AM Reply	your last paragraph better be a humor because you are stating a pattern just like your programming job. I have been in the restaurant business. If you cant work like a dog for low wages I will find someone who can. There is no politics or schmoozing from a management prospective, I dont care if everyone on the staff hate a particular employee, if he is busting his balls to do the job thats who stays. Something else going on here. thanx, bill TAM ARIS QUAM ARMIPOTENS
Post #39,984 by orion 5/26/02 5:00:59 PM Reply	Re: your last paragraph better be a humor In a way it was, seems to me like most jobs are that way. But I cannnot even get hired for the low paying jobs right now. It really bums me out. *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,672 by orion 5/23/02 2:13:32 PM Reply	No, what I am saying is that if I stayed with them, we'd all stave, if I left they would have enough to feed themselves. Better for just me to starve than all three of us. *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,675 by boxley 5/23/02 2:20:54 PM Reply	could take a while anyway :) be good for you TAM ARIS QUAM ARMIPOTENS
Post #39,889 by CRConrad 5/25/02 8:05:05 AM Reply	What you're saying is pure fucking bullshit. Q: How much more does a two-hundred-square-foot one-room apartment cost when there's three people living in it, in stad of two? A: Not a single cent, as long as you have the fucking brains not to live in a bloody HOTEL. Q: How much more does it cost to cook for three people, than for two? A: Peanuts. Actually, if you started to cook -- that is, buy and use raw potatoes, raw vegetables, and occasionally raw fish or meat, in stead of all the take-out pizzas, frozen this, and microwave that, that you live on now -- you could pretty easily cook for three for less than you'd spend for two on your current diet. Now stop whining here as if you really thought your wife was some fucking ice queen (which is what you actually are saying, only never straight out in so many words), and go and get yourself a job at McDonald's, or as a street sweeper, pimp, or garbage man, or whatever the fuck that you actually have a chance of getting. Just stop fucking whining about your stupid "pride", at least until you've shown the world -- us here, your wife, but first and foremost yourself -- that you actually have anything to be proud about. And, BTW, if you bring up your previous fucking employer only ONCE again, after having promised so many times to stop snivelling about how boo-hoo mean they were to you, then I'm going to say something I'll^H^H^H^Hyou'll really regret -- so DON'T. Christian R. Conrad Of course, who am I to point fingers? I'm in the "Information Technology" business, prima facia evidence that there's bats in the bell tower. -- [link\|http://z.iwethey.org/forums/render/content/show?contentid=27764\|Andrew Grygus]
Post #39,916 by orion 5/25/02 5:02:05 PM Reply	What are you saying? I can't imagine you saying anything worse than you've already said, and I can imagine a lot. I suppose in some weird way this is supposed to help me? As I said in the other post, there are more to expenses than just food and rent. My perscription medicine bill can eat up a whole salary of flipping burgers at minimum wage, anything left after that will get eaten up by credit card payments and other bills. Go ahead and attack me on these things, it seems to be the best you can do. I am not sure how all this is supposed to help me? *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,694 by hnick 5/23/02 3:39:55 PM Reply	Just for curiousity... didn't you guys do the usual richer & poorer, sickness & health routine? If so, which of you doesn't believe it now?
Post #39,803 by orion 5/24/02 10:43:46 AM Reply	Doesn't work in reality We both believe it, but why should we both go homeless or in the poor house? I've been sick so many times that it is hard for anyone to cope with, now I'll be poorer and it is even harder to cope with. I am not sure what to do if I cannot find a job in three months. Being sick and poor sucks. *I am free now, to choose my own destiny.*
Post #39,891 by hnick 5/25/02 8:54:39 AM Reply	Actually, it does The love and support of your mate is really a good and powerful thing to center on when it seems like your life is about to drop in the pot. It is very real. It can't be taken away either. You do have the option of throwing it away, and that is invariably to the detriment of all concerned. As CRC has observed, 3 can live about as cheaply as 2 and living in a cheap apt with your loved ones is a lot finer than living alone anywhere else. Goes for them as well, ya know? Being sick and poor does suck. There are worse hardships, trust me on this one, live long enough and you will gather first hand experience. And this too will pass... It looks like you are developing that whiney tone again.. that will stop you like a brick wall. It is apparent to potential employers and that kind of attitude will cause them to shred you resume right after the interview. Lose the tone and focus... It's about the 'tude dude... get with it.
Post #39,894 by Another Scott 5/25/02 9:56:30 AM Reply	Something to do in the meantime... [link\|http://stlcin.missouri.org/citypers/jobdetail.cfm?PosID=40\|School crossing guard] - $230 every 2 weeks for < 4 hours a day. It would get you outside, in a low stress environment, and give you a little income while you continue to look for a full-time position. For a full time position, look at the following: The MO Department of Corrections is looking for people, including people in IT - [link\|http://www.corrections.state.mo.us/division/hservice/hrm.htm\|here]. The MO Department of Agriculture is looking for someone to do weight inspection - [link\|http://www.mda.state.mo.us/edit/m3.htm\|here]. $969.50 semimonthly. There are many "merit" positions in IT listed [link\|http://www.oa.state.mo.us/pers/joa8009.shtml\|here] - the MO Office of Administration. You might want to consider working on a BS degree. [link\|http://stlcin.missouri.org/citypers/jobdetail.cfm?PosID=228\|Programmer/Analyst I] - $42k - $63.5k. A BS is required. Look into what it would take to get a BS degree. You should be able to get some credit for your associates degree, etc. I was able to find these things in about half an hour of Googling. I'm sure you can do better. "80% of life is just showing up." - Woody Allen. Hang in there. Cheers, Scott.

Welcome to IWETHEY!