Money as a bargaining chip is very abusable
I don't think Lily's ex wants to visit his children anyway.
Alas, if child support payments could be used as a bargaining chip, the non-custodian could dictate terms. He who pays the piper calls the tune. If the non-custodian withheld money, the custodian could respond by denying access but guess which parent has to deal with the suffering child and various, practical consequences? Indeed, in the battle of the sexes in general, guess who blinks first rather than let the child suffer?
Yes, I know what we have now is the custodian messing around the non-custodian. It's bad in the UK as well. So, attach payment to access and the non-custodian can abuse this to have his way; disconnect them and the custodian can abuse it to have her way. I'd go with the latter, myself, as people starve less.
Matthew Greet
Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
- Mark Renton, Trainspotting.
