I think there's been more read into this

Post #27,397 by bconnors 2/5/02 12:51:21 PM Reply	I think there's been more read into this than what I meant. The last woman I worked for caused me major problems and was the reason I had to change my employer when I didn't want to go looking for a new job. I agree that her gender shouldn't be a problem, but I see where her management style and personality have the potential to become focal points. Maybe I shouldn't have pointed it out in the post. Mea culpa. Remember that I never interviewed with her or any of her staff, but I was shuffled onto her team against my original manager's wishes. She hasn't been involved in giving assignments, she does not have a technical background, she does not have a solid understanding on how the databases are designed nor how the business logic works in the code. My original boss was one of the guys who designed and wrote the system that she manages now. I guess that I am used to and prefer technically-oriented managers. BConnors "Prepare for metamorphosis. Ready, Kafka?"
Post #27,435 by ben_tilly 2/5/02 6:29:03 PM Reply	The reason why I read stuff in If her being a woman is not an issue, then just mention that she is a woman. Don't lead up to it, pause expectantly, devote a paragraph to that sentence, then proceed on. Had you merely mentioned that you were managed by a woman, I wouldn't have responded. The fact that you went to so much trouble just to make it clear is what set off the red flags. Cheers, Ben
Post #27,501 by bconnors 2/6/02 10:52:38 AM Reply	No quarrel with your explanation You pointed out exactly how I led up to something that wasn't supposed to be the main point, but was, based upon how I typed it in. You handed me my head on a platter as I deserved. No offense taken - you are right that my posting style led you where it ended up. BConnors "Prepare for metamorphosis. Ready, Kafka?"
Post #27,891 by ben_tilly 2/9/02 1:08:36 AM Reply	Most miscommunications are obvious..in retrospect My apologies in turn for jumping so quickly. The other issues that you have with her are classic significant issues. It sucks to have someone who doesn't understand the issues be making decisions without getting any input from people who do. In my experience (much corporate mythology notwithstanding) the best management does not micromanage... Cheers, Ben
Post #27,691 by cwbrenn 2/7/02 3:53:20 PM Reply	I suddenly remember the reason I avoid IWETHEY so much these days. :( "We are all born originals -- why is it so many of us die copies?" - Edward Young
Post #27,846 by bepatient 2/8/02 3:54:20 PM Reply	Wow...that was tame. But the point was well made all the same You were born...and so you're free...so Happy Birthday! _{Laurie Anderson} [link\|mailto:bepatient@aol.com\|BePatient]
Post #27,852 by CRConrad 2/8/02 4:36:11 PM Reply	There was one?!? Can you clue me in on what it was, please?

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