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New This is *not* evidence that I'm anal
I just noticed that my wife has been in my wallet. The bills weren't all face up and in denomination order.
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New you have bills in your wallet and you are married? /me green
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New Didn't say they were *large* bills
I'm lucky if I can keep a [link|http://bertc.com/new_words.htm|yuppie food stamp] for more than two days without it disappearing.
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New Right you are.
That goes beyond anal and into obsessive-compulsive.
-YendorMike

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New Re: Right you are.
That goes beyond anal and into obsessive-compulsive.


I know I'm going to regret posting this... but it's been on my mind all day (not your post, the topic). Please don't treat it as a complaint though, I genuinely would like other opinions on this?

See mom decided last night that I was obsessive compulsive because of the certain ways I organize and color-code things and also because I have a lot of something, say a lot of different colored pens, or a lot of different colored socks.

I told her that in all my years of therapy, I was never considered to be obsessive compulsive... and trust me, I asked. So why does it seem that when someone wants to be highly organized and structured, those are the words that seem to pop up to describe them? Isn't there some better word for those of us who like a little order in their lives?

I'd really like to know some thoughts on this one, thanks.

Brenda



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New you are obviously anal, not a mental disease though
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New Don't be confusing "pointless" with "symptomatic"


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New The symptoms are on a continuum
People can have obsessive traits and not have full blown OCD. They can also have an obessive compulsive personality disorder, which is different from OCD in that it is more pervasive and less acute.

Lots of people manage their anxiety by organizing their external world. I'm one of them. Doesnt mean you have OCD.
New Thank you, Laura
That really helps me feel better. I know it's silly, I know if I really had OCD my therapists would have explained it and helped me with it. I just get so easily swayed by my mom... she's still the one who can make me doubt myself the most.

Have a good day!

Brenda



"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." -- By Geoffrey F. Abert
****************************

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don't matter - and those who matter, don't mind." -- By Dr. Seuss
***********************************

"Sometimes it takes a whole lot more strength to walk away than to stand there and fight." -- By the character of John Abbott: said on Young & Restless on 5/19/06
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New You're welcome.
Relax.

Everybody has their own weirdness. :-)
New ICLRPD (new thread)
Created as new thread #261376 titled [link|/forums/render/content/show?contentid=261376|ICLRPD]



"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." -- By Geoffrey F. Abert
****************************

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don't matter - and those who matter, don't mind." -- By Dr. Seuss
***********************************

"Sometimes it takes a whole lot more strength to walk away than to stand there and fight." -- By the character of John Abbott: said on Young & Restless on 5/19/06
*********************************
New That's not anal, that's organized :-)
I was a cashier in college and had to put the bills facing right in the till.

Yep, old habits die hard.
Smile,
Amy

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New There, you see? I'm okay, Amy says so
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New you're ok, I'm ok
I do the same thing, for the same reason as Amy.
I worked in a 7-11 for almost 3 years. Bills face up and in order. Any other way is just wrong.
Have fun,
Carl Forde
New Wow
You have my deepest respect. 3 years at a 7-11! That must be a record! I worked two years at Target. Back in the dark ages. Before they scanned the prices. Fastest fingers in the West :)
Smile,
Amy

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New I agree with Amy
It's perfectly logical to line money up where it faces all the same way. To do such a thing is simply to be organized. That goes for photos, receipts, etc. as well.

To flip out and overreact if one bill winds upside down instead of calmly turning it the right way, that is obsessive. There's a huge difference between the two.

Brenda




"When you take charge of your life, there is no longer need to ask permission of other people or society at large. When you ask permission, you give someone veto power over your life." -- By Geoffrey F. Abert
****************************

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind, don't matter - and those who matter, don't mind." -- By Dr. Seuss
***********************************

"Sometimes it takes a whole lot more strength to walk away than to stand there and fight." -- By the character of John Abbott: said on Young & Restless on 5/19/06
*********************************
New I assume none are missing?
Matthew Greet


Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
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New Hahahahahahahahaha
Whoooo, that was a good one. [wipes tear from eye] Yes, they were all there. And it's a good thing, too, because I'm going to lunch with the Easter Bunny and the Tooth Fairy today.
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New Your wife can't cover her tracks?
Matthew Greet


Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
- Mark Renton, Trainspotting.
New If the goal were snooping, she didn't cover them
I'm fairly sure the goal was just to use me as an ATM.
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New She steals and doesn't care?
She takes your money without agreement and is either too stupid to cover it up or is just plain contemptuous of you. And the question you're asking yourself is if you're anally retentive? I'm sure there must be some basis for your marriage but probably frightens children.
Matthew Greet


Choose Life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a fucking big television, choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players and electrical tin openers. Choose good health, low cholesterol, and dental insurance. Choose fixed interest mortgage repayments. Choose a starter home. Choose your friends. Choose leisurewear and matching luggage. Choose DIY and wondering who the fuck you are on a Sunday morning. Choose sitting on that couch watching mind-numbing, spirit-crushing game shows, stuffing fucking junk food into your mouth. Choose rotting away at the end of it all, pishing your last in a miserable home, nothing more than an embarrassment to the selfish, fucked up brats you spawned to replace yourself. Choose your future. Choose life... But why would I want to do a thing like that? I chose not to choose life. I chose somethin' else. And the reasons? There are no reasons. Who needs reasons when you've got heroin?
- Mark Renton, Trainspotting.
New Do try to be less of a moron, OK?
There are plenty of married people who share bank accounts.

If you share a bank account, there is no difference between taking money from the wallet and taking it from the ATM machine. It all comes from the same place in the end. It is no big deal.

In fact if a married couple can agree well enough on money issues to make this work, I think it is significantly better than trying to keep a tit for tat tally of "this is my money and that is yours". Why waste the energy and stress on a bookkeeping issue?

I feel sad for you that you're unable to conceive of this situation working out. It probably sucks to have to squabble about whose money is going to be used to buy toothpaste at the store. I'm glad I don't.

This obviously is not going to work when the couple has serious disagreements about how to spend money. For instance one has a shopping or a gambling problem. But plenty of couples don't have such problems, and for them money really should be a non-issue.

Cheers,
Ben

PS I've had a joint bank account with my wife for over 16 years without problems.

PPS My wife knows that she's free to take money from my wallet any time she wants as long as she leaves at least $40 in it. She usually tells me before she does so, but only because she needs to ask me where it is.
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New shared accounts
I did that for a decade my first turn on the marriage-go-round, and it presented some bookkeeping difficulties. For example, as I attempted to balance the checkbook in those balmy days before online banking I would say "Lookee! All our bills mailed timely and we've still got almost $150 to tide us over to next payday"—and then the spousette would fish out a wad of ATM receipts and I'd have to rob a convenience store or roll a crippled newsboy to avert the otherwise inevitable multiple overdrafts. These days #2 and I maintain and balance separate accounts. Since I have a steady income and hers fluctuates wildly I attempt to maintain matters so that I can cover our essential expenses even when she's experiencing a drought. Sometimes the droughts are prolonged, and I become anxious, but when they break we have these nice spells of extravagance. In ten years' cohabitation I don't think we've ever had sharp words over money.

cordially,
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New It strongly depends on the people
My wife and I are both prone to accidentally saving. Bouncing checks is not normally something we have to worry about. Or if we do, the problem is that the money is in the wrong account, not that we lack it.

Cheers,
Ben
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New its our money not my money unlike the UK
where a husband gives the wife a small stipend to buy groceries and pay bills of which the wife has to wring her beer money out of pennies saved on cheap and rotting food. We share.
thanx,
bill
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New I don't even think in those terms
First, she doesn't work outside the home. So any money she spends comes from me anyway. As Ben said, there's no difference between using the ATM and taking it from my wallet. Since I nearly always use the debit card when I have a choice, the only time I need cash is for the few places that don't take plastic. And at those places I'm rarely buying something for more than $20.

If she had "her own" money, and was taking "mine" because she ran out, that might be what you're talking about. But I don't think so. It's like saying that I'm stealing from her because I ate the last piece of cake without asking.
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New Even moreso here
I work, she works. Whats mine is hers and vice versa. Normal procedure is to ask. The wallet rifling or me going into the pocketbook would not be an issue over the money, it would be an issue of courtesy and respect of the other persons "space".

What I'm saying, I go into her pocketbook to get money on occassion. But I >ask< before I do, generally.
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Expand Edited by bepatient July 7, 2006, 12:07:44 PM EDT
New Re: asking first
Odds are the ice cream truck came by while she was out front with the kids and didn't have her purse handy. The wallet[1] was on the shelf by the front door, where I left it while I was doing yard work.



[1] It hasn't been "my wallet" for about five years, it's "the wallet". And I'm okay with that.
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New Denominational order here, but face up?
Denominational order allows a quick count (I only count twenties and up), but face up - that's obsessive.
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New My wife does that

At first I thought that it was from her background in banking, but she said her first husband got her doing it. He did it because he worked in a bookstore and you need to keep the bills organized.

I just cram the bills in there and every once in a while if I have any left, I'll put them in denominational order.

Tom Sinclair

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New I like to keep the notes in order, too.
I've been doing it for so long that if I don't, I can lose track of notes, because I assume that there's nothing smaller behind a larger one.

Wade.
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New Same here.
A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort. (Herm Albright)
     This is *not* evidence that I'm anal - (drewk) - (31)
         you have bills in your wallet and you are married? /me green -NT - (boxley) - (1)
             Didn't say they were *large* bills - (drewk)
         Right you are. - (Yendor) - (7)
             Re: Right you are. - (Nightowl) - (6)
                 you are obviously anal, not a mental disease though -NT - (boxley) - (1)
                     Don't be confusing "pointless" with "symptomatic" -NT - (pwhysall)
                 The symptoms are on a continuum - (bionerd) - (3)
                     Thank you, Laura - (Nightowl) - (1)
                         You're welcome. - (bionerd)
                     ICLRPD (new thread) - (Nightowl)
         That's not anal, that's organized :-) - (imqwerky) - (4)
             There, you see? I'm okay, Amy says so -NT - (drewk) - (3)
                 you're ok, I'm ok - (cforde) - (1)
                     Wow - (imqwerky)
                 I agree with Amy - (Nightowl)
         I assume none are missing? -NT - (warmachine) - (11)
             Hahahahahahahahaha - (drewk) - (10)
                 Your wife can't cover her tracks? -NT - (warmachine) - (9)
                     If the goal were snooping, she didn't cover them - (drewk) - (8)
                         She steals and doesn't care? - (warmachine) - (7)
                             Do try to be less of a moron, OK? - (ben_tilly) - (2)
                                 shared accounts - (rcareaga) - (1)
                                     It strongly depends on the people - (ben_tilly)
                             its our money not my money unlike the UK - (boxley)
                             I don't even think in those terms - (drewk) - (2)
                                 Even moreso here - (bepatient) - (1)
                                     Re: asking first - (drewk)
         Denominational order here, but face up? - (Andrew Grygus)
         My wife does that - (tjsinclair) - (2)
             I like to keep the notes in order, too. - (static) - (1)
                 Same here. -NT - (jbrabeck)

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