Then your manners need polishing :-P
I've not inadvertently left my phone on in the wrong place for 4 years (had it on in the cinema, it rang for ~2 secs before I killed the call).
The trick is to obtain a phone that does vibrate then ring with increasing volume.
99% of the time it'll never make a sound before you answer it or reject the call.
Peter
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