Owlet, I think you've explained it very well - neither excessively nor warm-puppifed [no, that's not really a word].
Thanks, I tried to just state it as it is.
I suggest that if, As the World Churns -- something like this comes up yet again: just bookmark this thread and refer any enquiries to it. I can't see that any more medico- psych- or psychic palaver could add to the "experience level" of any likely readers. "Looking for an opportunity to defend oneself" is its own diagnosis/prognosis and last word. IMhO.
Good suggestion, I bookmarked it under friends, so I can find it easily.
Now you've earned a psychic rest on this intractable 'matter'. (So have 'we')
No arguments there. :)
Brenda